How important is a woman's appearance into a relationship?

Answer 1

As a man I would say that what first attracts me to a woman is her appearance. We cannot deny that we are living in a society based on appearances. Everyday magazines hold pictures of beautiful sexy slim stars...
So a man is instantly caught by the appearance of a woman, and therefore takes a step towards getting to know her... Later in the relationship men start to discover the woman's personnality and get to know her inner beauty, that's when men really get in touch with their feelings and realize they're in love, and from there.... who knows where the relationship might end up...
But however I must insist that for everyman is a soulmate, the woman with whom I am destined to spend my time with will surely always look beautiful to me. Attraction has no rules, I may find a lady extremely stunning and sexy while my buddy would find her repelling !!

In conclusion I would say that the appearance might play a role in the beginning of the relationship, but that will definitely fade away later.

Answer 2

When you meet a guy for the first time and he asks you out, it's partially based on how you look. Not because he's shallow, but because he doesn't have anything else to gauge you on yet BUT your appearance.

If you've been asked on a date, your appearance passed the test.

Once he starts to get to know you, THEN it's not based on looks anymore. Women do the same thing; you go out with a guy you're attracted to because you're attracted to him and you want to see if there's a connection.

The tricky part is, you can't exactly meet a guy looking like a bombshell and then three months later get "comfortable" and gain 45 pounds and stop bathing. It's not fair to the guy because you gave the impression you were a certain way when you got together and now you changed. If you get pregnant and have a little extra weight, that's understood because of the situation...(but I'm talking about after a short amount of time, not natural aging)

To answer your question directly, a woman's appearance is as important as the man's. If you're not attracted to HIM anymore, you're not going to have a successful relationship, right? Same goes for you. Just keep up whatever you've been doing. :)

Answer 3

Completely variable. If you're talking about a specific relationship and specific person, don't forget that tastes differ wildly. That guy might think that funny-lookin' girl is the most entrancing creature on the planet.

It really does happen, and many guys have particular vulnerabilities: I myself am a complete sucker for slightly pointy eye-teeth: I'd find a sack of potatoes with Kirsten Dunst's upper row a serious attractant. A friend has a fatal fascination for wiry blondes with lightly furred upper lips. Chacon a son gout.

But this is really not answering the more general question of how important (female) looks are overall, and that's a more complex one. Consider: instinctive male assessment criteria are initially aimed at characteristics that predict a healthy ability to bear children. This isn't conscious, of course - it's an instinctive thing that arose because those who had the instinct tended to have more healthy offspring.

So guys are attracted to breasts that look like they could deliver the goods; to symmetrical features that indicate good genes and health; and to any other features that (look like) would help their children to thrive. This is obviously crazy, because producing children is hardly the initial focus, but we're stuck with our instincts.

And so are you, but your criteria are more complicated, because you have more to lose if you get it wrong. So while you too will be interested in good looks, you also look for signs of strength, intellect and status - because in the jungle where the instincts arose these characteristics would have reduced the chances of your kids being starved or killed.

Another aspect that puzzles the hell out of some women: guys can cheerfully have one-night-stands with women they don't even like, and to whom they're not at all attracted. This, too, is because our ancient ancestors had little to lose from casual sex in such circumstances. Even if they never see the person again, there's a chance that the brief coupling could produce another copy of their genes. Those of our ancestors who had such instincts left more copies of their genes (including the genes that produce the instinct) than those who didn't. We're their descendents.

One-nighters are the genetic equivalent of scattering seed on a gamble. Some come up, some don't. We don't care much. When it comes to more stable and long-term reactions, though, issues like appearance are more important. We (our instincts, that is) want to be sure that our genes are going to wind up in healthy bodies which can produce offspring of their own.

An example of how crazy this is is shown by what we've done to breasts. In order to feed a child, you only need a few hundred grams of lactating tissue. And you only need it when you're actually nursing. But Nature found that by putting fake lumps of fatty tissue on women, you could give the impression of having unusually large capacity in reserve. Men were attracted to these lumps, and so even virgins have to go around with these lumps in place - sheer advertising. Of course, when a woman is actually pregnant, the semi dormant lactation tissue wakes up and grows to operating size - the phenomenon known as the Tit Fairy - and the lumps get even bigger.

And this has risen to truly surreal levels with the recent invention of augmentation mammoplasty, where the fake lumps can be made truly gigantic - despite being useless - with implants. Even though we're all aware that these things are non-functional - and may even damage lactation and arousal - many of us can't help but be interested.

Hah! 'Free will' - gimme a break!

(Incidentally, let any woman who's worried about this matter take note that to guys boob size is like Coke 'n' Pepsi: we may express a preference, but we're more than happy with whatever's available.)

Looks are important, but gorgeous and stupid (or devoid of character, or humour, or humanity) only last for a while. Once the lights go back to full brightness, we all need someone to talk to.

CD

Answer 4

The only significant importance is when it is beginning. You find someone attractive, and you are interested in starting a relationship with them. Lust is the start to most relationships.

If a partner starts finding the other more and more unattractive physically and thinks that appearance is a deciding factor in whether they want to stay in a relationship, they really aren't worth being with.

Answer 5

In the beginning, very important. It's usually what sparks the guys interest.

Once I get to know a person, looks are really not as important if the woman has a great personality.

Answer 6

Well, all women feel good if they feel they look good, so keeping one's appearance is very important, in or out of a relationship

Answer 7

A person should love you for who they are and appearance shouldn't be important to them. But for self confidence appearance should be important!

Answer 8

Its important to try and keep up your appearance in any relationship and for yourself

Answer 9

I shouldn't answer this because i get comfortable with a girl too easy. But once you are comfortable in a relationship you shouldn't try to impress him all the time. I wouldn't care if you were in your panties and a long shirt, and your hair was all screwed up and no make up on when i got over as long as i was comfortable with you, and when i took you out on a date you actually tried to look your best :)

Answer 10

I think you have to go to the root of it: your appearance, how you take care of yourself, tells a story.
If you don't brush your hair, teeth, throw on a set of clean, unwrkinkled clothes, it can send a message that you don't care about very much,....how much effort is going to go into the relationship?