Can you ever truly say you have mended your broken heart? How long should you wait before even contemplating a new relationship? Should you jump in with both feet or wait for a while before starting out on the dating circuit?
2007-03-21 03:13:43 · 28 answers · asked by PrettyKitty 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can make the hurt last for as long as you allow it....focus on whats in the future, and not whats happened in the past.,...time to move on now....don't feel hurt and upset any more...you have to get over it in order to move on...go out with friends and have fun...don't dwell on what used to be
2007-03-21 03:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
time wise.. is different for everyone.. just because love its different depending on to what extent you loved the person.. and how the relationship broke off... I went through a heart break.. and it took me 3 yrs to get over the fact of being angry, hurt, resentful, and all that comes along with a broken heart... it wasnt until one time me and this guy had a long talk and were able to put everything behind.. it was complicated. That is why i say is different.. After the actual break up.. I got into another relationship 7 mtnhs after.. It lasted about a yr but it was not the same... I guess I was trying to surpass and make myself fall in love.. or keep entertained.. it was wrong so i let it go.. and stayed alone.. (I actually enjoyed my alone time very much!) traveled and got myself into other things... after the 3 yrs passed It all felt better and I was able to feel I can love again.. now Im in a wonderful relationship and feel so much better that i got over the heartbreak.. Im also careful but much in love =)
hope if helps.. and good luck..always turn to friends and loved ones they are great support.. =)
2007-03-21 03:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by GIGI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can get over a broken heart but it takes time to mend it. Don't jump into the next relationship you can just give it some thought first. You don't want to go through the same senario again with this man if he's not the one. I know everyone wants to be loved but don't be crazy about it. Good luck with everything.
2007-03-21 03:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by lovemuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best cure for a broken heart. You have been hurt so you need to mend the way that makes you feel good about yourself. It could take a long time for you to get over this, everyone is different. Don't complicate your life with another relationship until your good and ready. Pick up the pieces and love yourself for who you are. Set high standards for yourself! Cocoa
2007-03-21 03:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody mends a little different. When you truly love someone you always love. There are different degrees of love you know. Time is a healer that is for sure. Make sure you do not sit around and stay depressed. Get out and mingle, you do not have to get involved. Just do not isolate yourself!!! Talk with friends and family, keep yourself busy. It is hard, but remember life goes on. There will always be someone else enter your life. Take it easy and let yourself mend. Good Luck.
2007-03-21 03:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the crappiest person to answer this but i still will. Is it possible , in my opinion , no. Well it depends really how you mean "get over" , as every day passes it gets easier but there have been people in my life that somethings still jerk a memory in my head that kinda takes you back to a time if you know what i mean. For the other question , for me its best to jump in straight away because ill forget the past but for the other person its better to wait because im still normally a bit messed up about the last, there no point hurting someones else to make yourself feel better now is there. Well theres a long piece of text with absolutley no answers in it , well done myself ;)
2007-03-21 03:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ben C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit for the repair of a broken heart. You do not say how yours was indeed broken. So I shall assume you have been hurt by a break up. In which case I will say - get your glad rags on and get out there and enjoy your life. Your pain will heal in time although you perhaps not forget this experience you will move on and learn from what you have experienced. I would not get involved so soon though - just try to relax and enjoy socializing first, otherwise you will end up judging people for all the wrong reasons and perhaps miss out on more good experiences. I repeat, I dont expect you to forget over night so to speak - but dont let it hold you back, you reconize the feeling which speaks volumes to me, so now its your time to enjoy yourself. Best of luck now chin up and best foot forward.
2007-03-21 03:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different, but yes eventually it will mend.
It could takes weeks, months or years depending on how special the person was to you, as for moving into other realtionships, this will take your mind off the other person, but it can also make matters worse, I'd suggest you give yourself a break & be single for a while before jumping into another relationship - Goodluck! x
2007-03-21 03:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lu G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait. Jumping into your next relationship will make things worse and also would make your relationship not even last. It does time time and for some more then others. For me it took about 1 1\2 years to get over it but I enjoyed my single life while healing. Its possible just give it time.
2007-03-21 03:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are not expecting actual timescales here but from my experience (4 broken hearts) it takes approximately 3 months for every year you have been in the relationship.
I know that sounds very specific but I was in a relationship for 2 years and it took me 6 months to be able to move on and go whole days without thinking about my ex.
Then I was in one for a year and it took 3 months.
Then I was in one for half a year and it took a month and a half.
I know that sounds bizzare but it is true for me - after the 1 year to 3 month ratio had passed I was back to normal!
2007-03-21 03:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a while, get yourself in check first, although you may seem happy with a new found intrest, you are only masking how you still feel. say for instance, your boyfriend wasn't giving you sex for about a month before you broke up. going out and having sex with another guy or many is not going to help anything, it will only mask the fact that you are still in love with the boyfriend you have but are trying to pretend and kid yourself that he wasn't what you wanted
I quote def leppard on this one
"when you make love
do you look in the mirror?
who do you think of?
does he look like me?"
I think thats a lot of what comes with rebounds.
2007-03-21 03:22:32 · answer #11 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋