I have been dating this guy a couple weeks. we are both 20 and I am virgin and I dont think he is. We get along great but whenever we start to make out I cant stop. I am so attracted to him but I dont want to sleep with him yet. Well I do, but its too soon. I want to wiat longer so I know he wants more than sex. How do I slow this down?
2007-03-21 03:12:16 · 13 answers · asked by katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't have prolonged make out sessions. This will cut down your active hormones and make it easier for you to wait. It's important your first time be in the right setting and the right moment for you. If the man cares about you he will respect your wishes about wanting to wait.
By waiting you will also know if you really care about him and he truly cares about you. Never do anything in haste.
2007-03-21 03:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make yourself LESS available to force his attentions towards what you wish him to prove to you so that you can consider him OK for sex.
If he has to qualify himself to you in another department, then DON'T allow things to get to where you are SEXUALLY tangled and don't have control over your body.
Keep at arms length and seek the answers you needs from him, before you push him out of your life!
Maybe he only WANTS sex.
Maybe it's all YOUR sexual fantasies that are jamming the works!
Be honest with yourself. Is he worth the effort?
2007-03-21 10:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by cullentoons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better slow that pony down. I'm like Soto- I think it should be special. You comeout and tell him. I like you -personally I wouldn't do it at all-you're a virgin- you been saving your self for some reason -is he gonna be worth it to you when it's all over? getting ahead of myself- tell him you like him-but you gotta slow it down, and that's it-plain and simple unless you think he'll split-Then You got your answer-right there!!
2007-03-21 10:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop making out if you don't know when to stop because you are just tempting yourself to do it all the way, and he knows and sooner or later you will no longer be a virgin, hope you practice safe sex.
2007-03-21 10:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being strong enough to say," this is going too fast let's slow this mule down." Good Luck!
2007-03-21 10:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smart girl! Stop making out - do things together in a group so you can get to know him better!
2007-03-21 10:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep a friend around instead of being alone with him all of the time.
2007-03-21 10:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by olddad1019 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by controling your hormones. youre a virgin and your hormones now are out of control, you want it. now that you want it, it is hard to stop because he is turning you on and youre attracted to him. be strong and make him wait, it should be special.
2007-03-21 10:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple don't make out so much and take it from there tell him how you feel and if he doesn't agree with you, then you make a decision where to take it from there :)
2007-03-21 10:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him.
if you're ever planning on doing the deed, let him know you want to slow things up. if he sticks around, he's a keeper.
2007-03-21 10:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by kay. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋