manly enough? I have been dating this guy for 3 weeks now. I dont know how I feel about him. We have so much in common we could talk for hours, and he is really sweet, but I just dont think he is macho, manyly enough. My family doesnt understand why I am waistng my time with him. They think I could do better just because he is TO SOFT for a man. Is this wrong to think this?
2007-03-21 03:05:55 · 21 answers · asked by Beth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is from Europe, and he is 29 and I am 25.
2007-03-21 03:06:44 · update #1
Pay no attention to what others think. They will not be sharing their lives with him. They will not go to bed with him.
Your honest feelings cannot be strong enough for this sensitive man. Otherwise, you would accept him without question.
Ask yourself this question:
If you were on a desert island, would he be your choice til the day you died?
Be honest! The rest of the world does NOT count,...on an island , they are NOT there!
2007-03-21 03:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by cullentoons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather have a manly man who might beat your or is egosistical as all hell. Or the soft guy who sweet but is still a man? I'd take a soft sweet man over some of the macho assholes I've dated in the past any day.
2007-03-21 03:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good question, I had to respond...
but I'd keep him if i were you, at least as a very good friend or gf
you're finding out that when a guy turns out to be kinda a wussy boy then the attraction fades...
maybe say I like you as you know, but you need to macho up a bit and see what he says or does first.
some guys are just not Mr Macho but maybe you just need some time away from him to see where your real feelings lie..
attraction is not a choice unfortunately ..in other words, you can't "make" yourself be attracted to someone no matter how nice or good looking or what...
good luck
2007-03-21 03:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a question of being manly or not. The fact is that you feel uncomfortable. So does your family. Mind you, try to analyse what macho in your opinion means. It can vary for different people. the crux of the matter is, he does not seem to be the man for you.
2007-03-21 03:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by shgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can that be wrong? You can't help that way you feel, what you think, or what you want. If a guy isn't macho enough for you, then thats that. Maybe when you go ou twith the next guy or quit seeing this one then you will know if your judgement was wrong because now you miss him or it was fine by you either way.
2007-03-21 03:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this sounds like monster in law look deep in your heart if he is the right one you will know straight away cause love is very strong and have no doughts so maybe he just isnt the right guy for you and u need 2 carry on searching 4 that special someone
2007-03-21 03:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 years old and let me tell you, in my experience I have found that some of the nicest, funniest guys can amount to nothing more than friends. I can tell you this, if the spark isn't there right now, in the early stages of your relationship, then there isn't going to be any flames. Let him go. You can try telling him that you would like to be friends, that you enjoy his company. More than likely though, he ego will be bruised and you will loose him all together. I sure wish you luck, it's to bad we woman can't choose who we will fall head over heels for.
2007-03-21 05:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What attracted you to him to begin with? Go with your Heart! and don't forget your head!! You know him better than we do. What attracts yo u to a man to begin with? You know the answer to this question. I really believe you already do. Why do you need Confirmation!? Are you guilty about this feeling? It doesn't mean you can't be freinds. That may be the best thing for both of you. He may be more reciprocating to this than you would believe.
2007-03-21 03:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed that Eupopean men are less "macho" then say American men. They don't care so much about "being macho". I think it's perfectly fine to not be attracted to that, although later on you may feel differently - that it is less important. Don't sweat it though. You're attracted to what you're attracted to.
2007-03-21 03:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand I had the same problem before. I realized that we were better friends. I like a bad boy . A protector. No your not wrong. People like different things .
2007-03-21 03:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by jodeefla1979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋