My neighbors Dad just passed from a long battle with cancer. I didn't know him well, but I'm friendly with the neighbor. Am I expected to go to the Memorial????
2007-03-21 02:56:34 · 7 answers · asked by dtjb_635 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have contributed to a gift from the neighbors. To answer what would she do.. she'd not go to anything for my family I'm quite sure. But I am planning on going to the visitation, no funeral. Thanks!!
2007-03-21 03:52:43 · update #1
Expected? Probably not. But it would be very considerate of you to make an personal appearance if not at the funeral home, then at the home of your neighbor. Funeral (viewing) services are more about extending support to the family than honoring the deceased. Food and cards are greatly appreciated by the extended family who may have been forgotten by persons paying respect to the widow.
2007-03-21 03:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that you are expected to go, but it does show a sense of compassion toward you neighbors situation. Sometimes it is better to let the hubbub settle down and then spend some time with the person. It's the period after the funeral and everyone leaves, that is the hardest. This is often the time that is the loneliest. Do what your heart tells you is right. Then do a little more. Sometimes the smallest gesture has the biggest impact.
2007-03-21 10:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is, it doesn't matter what would the neighbor do, or what you think she would do. I think you should go to the wake/memorial. Don't go to the funeral, just go to the wake and convey your sympathies, go say a prayer or whatever by the body and leave. It should only take you about 10 minutes. You don't have to stay for any service, just show up. I started a new job and within 2 weeks the bosses wife died, I didn't know her, I didn't even know the boss, I went and paid my respects, because it's what I thought was proper. I think it would be best for you to go.
2007-03-21 11:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is important for you to be there for her. Especially if this is a neighbor, you see them alot regardless. However, if you are not comfortable at the memorial, flowers and a quick visit with your neighbor would be suggested. If you're not sure, would she go to your father's funeral or what would she do? Maybe that's your answer.
2007-03-21 10:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by daff73 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If, as you say, you are friendly with your neighbour, I think it would be a nice gesture to support her, even if you didn't know the deceased well. Let's face it memorials are fro the benefit of the living not the dead.
2007-03-21 10:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tony A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
send flowers .that is the best. Bring over dinner to the family.
depends if it is the actual funeral, no ,but the visitation yes.
2007-03-21 10:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by bleacherbrat34 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Expected, no, but it would be a nice gesture. If nothing else, express sympathy over your neighbour's loss with a card or flowers or something.
2007-03-21 10:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sinclair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋