my moms and i fight all the time because we never spend time together, because im always somewhere else and she's always at her boyfriends house, but everytime i come home she goes to her boyfriends house and leave me doing nothing, so i basically come home for nothing. what do i do about all this arguing we do?
2007-03-21 02:55:53 · 11 answers · asked by shawntica d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You and your mom should set up a day about once a week for just the two of you.
2007-03-21 03:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set her down tell her like u told us let her know how u feel left out alone neglected and ur tired of fighting u dont say how old u are but all these emotions tied up inside u are what causes the eruptions and fighting open the door to communication step thru if u have to circle a date on the calendar tell her this is our time we need to talk dont do it in anger it will b hard what starts out once a month could turn into once a week this worked for me and my 2 children who are grown now and both my daughter and my son still call me and we still have our time could b a day could b one hour life is precious life is short
2007-03-21 10:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you and your mom need is to see a councillor, or if you don't want to see a shrink, get someone with an objective opinion to sit with the two of you and let the both of you air your grouses in a calm manner. personally i think if you are going to school or college you could ask the guidance counillor to sit with you both and let you guys talk stuff over, makes no sense that a mother and her kid can't get along well, that;s supposed to be the strongest bond.
2007-03-21 10:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by kamarla_phillips06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE you schedule some mother daughter time every week a few times a week you and your mom can agree to a time and you should both make sure that you can be available at that time. Ask her and see if she is willing to do this just dinner and catching up not arguing listen to each other, hear each other.
2007-03-21 10:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her to sit down with you,tell her in a straight forward manner that u love her despite of the fact that u people are always arguing with eachother. tell her that you need her in your life because she is your mother, i think relationships between people can become far better if people begin to realize their duties rather than thinking about their rights all the time, good luck!
2007-03-21 10:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by ~Sid~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately communicate and work on planning some fun but realize that parents and children should be spending time on their own interests as well.
2007-03-21 10:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to grew up,......Looks like you need lot attention and she is not giving it to you, Try to talk to her when she is in a good mod, if she still not listen to you, Dont worry when times come she will regreat not listen to you before.
My stepdaughter doesnt talk to her mother because of the all crap she went through when she was living with her. This is what she gets...
bouna fortuna!!
2007-03-21 10:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how old you are. But ask her to please set a time aside for the two of you alone and tell her that your tierd of fightiing and that you wuld like to spend some one on one time with her and not with any bf tagging along. Be honest and polite,
2007-03-21 10:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is called sit her down and talk things out. or inviter her and her b/f to go out and have like a family night even though he is not your dad and maybe never will be but at least make him feel like he is apart of it. and just chill with your mom. trust me it will all work out.
2007-03-21 09:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that u want to spend time with her (only u and her ) not with her boyfriend....
2007-03-21 10:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋