hoe old do u have to be before i can put my kid out of the house?

Question

my kid is 16 she leaves school in may she is giving me hell and swears at me all the time and giving the other kids hell

Answer 1

You can force your daughter to leave, but she will be counted as 'homeless' if you refuse to let her live with you. As you are unable to rent or buy property at 16 or 17, she will be treated as high priority by the local authority.

Someone is considered to be threatened with homelessness, if they are likely to be homeless within 28 days.

If you serious want your daughter out of your house, tell her - and the local authority, that she will be unable to live in your house after 28 days. Send her down to the local authority to sort out alternate accommodation.

You, or your daughter, can receive further advice free from your local Citizens Advice Bureau.

Answer 2

I can not believe some people try talking to your daughter on her own in a neutral place it may be just hormones or there may be a reason she is behaving like she is.
At the age of 16 they are classed as an adult for housing purposes by the Councils in England. But would you want your daughter living in a bedsit surrounded by who knows what. She doesnt need scaring she is probably frightened enough by life already.
If there are other kids in the house try and give her some quality time with you, if she is the oldest and competing for attention with the younger family members then how else is she going to get attention other than kick up.
No dont throw her out sit down for five minutes and look at how you are parenting your children see what you can do to make things right.

Answer 3

Think long and hard before you do anything that could affect your relationship with your daughter. Is there a reason that she is acting out? Have you even asked her? Im 24, when I was a teenager I was the devil!!! I used to put my mum and brothers through hell on a daily basis, but I grew out of it and maybe she will too. There must be some reason for this behaviour. Is she the oldest? Sometimes older kids can feel put out by thier younger siblings and act out accordingly, on the other hand if she isnt maybe there is something going on in her life you dont know about. Ask her for a one on one chat, no other kids or friends around, talk to her like an adult, no shouting or swearing and see if you can get to the bottom of this behaviour before you do anything u may regret later on. Hope this helps xxxx

Answer 4

Tell me what 16 year old girl isn't a rude little madam and needs a good kick up the back side?
Not only is she still regarded as a child in the eye's of the law until she's 18, she's your daughter.
I remember being 16 and i will admit i was a night mare, your expected to act like an adult and when you do act like an adult you get scolded like a child, not easy for parent or child, she's growing up and is testing you to see just how far she can push you before you'll snap.
I dont agree with the cursing, that's rude plain and simple,and giving the other kid's hell is probably her way of lashing out because of you 2 clashing.
Dont be tempted to kick her out, she's feeling crappy enough about life in general, this will make her feel like an outsider within the family and this may make your relationship even harder to get back on an even footing!
Despite all the arguments your mother and daughter and that's one of the best friendships a girl will ever have in her life time!
Good luck!

Answer 5

This is a really hard choice to make, and I really do feel for you, I am having similar problems with a 13 yr old.

I think to be honest it is a sign of the times, kids have been given rights and such that they are not mature enough to cope with. They have no idea about consequences.

I would hang in there as I have friends who kids at 16 were vile, but once they got to 18 and 19, and were working and such, they really changed, its an awful age, between childhood and adulthood.

As for given siblings hell, thats part and parcel of being a brother or sister, mine fight like cat and dog sometimes, and it can drive me to distraction, but they soon unite when it comes to someone else outside given one of them hell.

Swearing is not all that bad, not nice, but not the end of the world, if she was being violent towards you, then that is a different kettle of fish. Have you heard kids in general, every other word is a swear word. Now I am not saying that you do, but if you swear, it could be learnt behaviour, just what she is used to hearnin.

Hang in there and try to talk to her, try to do some stuff with her, that is girly, face masks, have a pampering night, where the other kids and in bed early, watch some chick flicks, she may need some attention from you, but won't admit that, who of us at that age would.

I hope everything works out for you both.

Answer 6

I have a step daughter who WAS just the same, she punched her mum in the lip which needed stitches,she stole jewellry from me(even tho i didnt tell) i could go on and on......Anyway basically everything her mum, dad and me asked her to do e.gcome home at a certain time etc...would end up causing a full scale row and fight.
In the end we all chatted we were exhausted,we decided to let her get on with it.
That night she asked what time she had to be in ,her mum said whenever you like. She rang her dad shouting cause her mum wouldnt tell her and he said when we do tell u you dont listen,from now on your on your own.
It turned out she was with the wrong crowd on drugs,It got to the stage where her mum phoned the police cause she never came home and they brought her back time and time again. Then she threatened her with social services,and rang them.
She was devastated. She told s.s that she wanted to scare her. It did. She still never went to school and mum got fined,the last straw mum got the locks changed threw her out. It worked. She was attention seeking.
Not saying it will work 4u but u could give it a go, I feel 4u.
GOOD LUCK....P.s She is a sweet girl again now 16(14 when at her worst)

Answer 7

Research the laws in the state where you live. My son is now 18 and I'm going to have that same talk with him. I just can't deal with him anymore. You're going to have to sit down with her, give her a last warning and then if she still won't change, tell her what her expected move date will be. Buy some moving boxes and leave them in her room. That might scare her enough to know you're serious about her behavior. When a parent has had enough, they can do that to their child. We deserve to a decent life too. You can only teach your child your beliefs for so long and hope they will live that way too. When they choose otherwise, you have to do what's best for you and your family. Good luck.

Answer 8

kids sometimes who need them they stress you out make you cry drive you to dispare but no matter if you put her out you will still worry that you have done the right thing where is she what is she doing what about getting some help to see what the problem is at the end of the day she is your problem you brought her into the world and i am afraid she is there for the rest of your life

Answer 9

Do it now ! 16 is old enough she will be able to get a house with the housing association wish my mum had when i was 16 i am now 30 in full time employment i managed to move out for 6mnths and am now back at home. She will thank you for it when she is older x

Answer 10

when she leaves school, i do feel for you, my obnoxious son is the same age, but i do try and remember his good sides, not always easy. you need to make clear boundaries about abusive behaviour and swearing, threaten losing pocket money, and stick to it. i find it hard with my son, but i couldn't throw him out, i may hate his behaviour but i still love him, there is a difference, kids this age are under immense pressure with gcse's coming up