My boyfriend of 2 1/2 yrs. is up and moving on Friday, he just told me yesterday. I mean this is the man that I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with. I am so lost. He is so lost, confused, he told me he doesn't know what he is doing he is just doing it. He lost his job 6 months ago, he lost his license 4 years ago (should be getting it back within the year) he lives, lived? by himself pretty much all of his life at his mothers house, but she doesn't live their and pretty much hasn't since he was a young teen. The scary part is his father was a Harvard graduate, and he left his whole family behind when my boyfriends mother left him and was never heard from again until his death. My boyfriend was just a little boy and doesn't remember his father much, but it has had a huge impact on him, I am really nervous that this might be happening to him and I just don't know what to do? I just can't believe this is happening........
2007-03-21 02:41:57 · 11 answers · asked by kristywork127 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know, I guess there isn't a question, maybe I am just hoping someone is gonna give me all the answers, but who can do that when he doesn't even have any answers. :(
2007-03-21 02:48:34 · update #1
He is going to stay with a friend for a few weeks and he said from there he doesn't know. He said to me how I am I man when I can't provide for you let alone myself. I am a single mother with a high school diploma and he is Mr. Independent who has his bachelors so I don't know if he feels weird that I am going further with my life than he is at this point? I don't freakin' know?
2007-03-21 02:53:35 · update #2
in any relationship and in your life as a single girl, you need to stand on your own two feet. he's trying to find himself, if you love him, let him do it, he can't give you all the answers right now. you, on the other hand can't fall apart because he's doing something for himself. if your love is meant to be, he will come back to you. but in the meantime, keep living, it isn't the end of the world, he's still alive, and so are you and so is your child. getting into a co-dependent relationship isn't gunna help you as a mom or as a human being. he's taking care of him, and what he feels he needs to do, it's time for you to take care of you, not just sit by the phone and pondering questions you and he can't answer. keep living, life's not over yet.
2007-03-28 16:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 1/2 years is a long time, and i am sure you were as close as could be with him, but once things settle down you will see that while you will never forget him, that 2 1/2 years will just be a blib on your history. Take some time for yourself, you have done all you can, and you are obviously a passionate caring person. when you are ready to move on i am sure you will find a great guy! just keep the faith. dont try to force something thats not there, it will just turn ugly and more hurtful to you both.
2007-03-21 02:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is let him go and try to figure it out, if he comes back then it was meant to be if not all you can do is pray for him but he won't be able to have a good relationship with you or anyone until he figures out who he really is.I know that's probably not the answer you want but it is the truth I know it will hurt but it's something evidentally he need's and at least he is being up front with you.
Good Luck
2007-03-21 02:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is your question? If he has made the decision to move there is nothing you can do. Obviously you cannot be as important to him as he is to you or he would have discussed his thoughts of moving with you rather than just inform you that he was packing up and taking off.
2007-03-21 02:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, What's the question ? I too feel sorry for you. I suggest you try to talk to him about it. Be there for him and listen to what he says. You two might just be able to work it out... That is unless he is running away.
Hope it works out for you :)
2007-03-21 02:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has very serious issues. I would try to move on and develop a relationship with another man.
2007-03-21 02:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. Just talk to him about it and try to help him as much as possible.
2007-03-21 02:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the question? i feel sorry for you dear try to talk with him and find out what really the matter is?good luck
2007-03-28 22:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by priya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How horrible for you! Is he going anywhere in particular? Or just running away?
2007-03-21 02:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by crazycatlady4real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey....you must be so broke! i'd be dying to if i was you....i dont' knwo what things like that happen but i hope things work out for you guys
2007-03-21 02:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by forget_me_not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋