regrets on your tubal ligation? or having your tubes tied?

Question

I had a tubal ligation during the c-section when my twins were born 10 months ago, I'm feeling very regretfull, is this normal and will pass?? help???? :(

yes I have 5 children, and I knew I just couldn't afford any more, The OB even tried to talk me out of it I guess because he knew me, but I stuck with the decision, I just wonder why it makes me so sad when my 10 months old do things that show that they are getting more independent I just get so upset.

Answer 1

I had my baby 5 months ago and sometimes I feel a little twinge of regret... Then i remember sleepless nights, swollen ankles all the weight I gained. I also have to remind myself that I don't believe in more than 2 children per family. Yeah, it's natural. Your whole 'purpose' in life as a woman is to make babies. It is how society has programmed you. Try and find things you enjoy to keep your mind off of it. There was a reason you got it done right? It was probably a good one so try to remember it when you get upset.

Answer 2

The feeling should pass, but it will take some time. If you weren't 100% about your decision, you will experience regret. I had it done 11 years ago, when I was 25. I knew I never wanted children. I don't regret my choice. Sterilization is not a decision to be made lightly or on a whim. I thought long and hard about it. I felt sure in my decision. I had it done and that was that. I waited until I was 25 because here in Georgia, if a woman has no children, she cannot be "fixed" until she is 25, unless there is a medical reason for it. I know it sounds crazy but that is the law.

I suggest you seek some counseling. It will help you come to terms with it. Too many women seek sterilization, thinking that the procedure can be reversed if they change their mind. A reversal can be attempted but it is rarely successful. Talk to your doctor and ask for a referal to a counselor. Good luck.

Answer 3

Your surgeon appears like sort of a scumbag. that's extremely sleazy to mean that the terrible deaths of your husband and present toddlers could be negated by utilising your having a sparkling toddler/toddlers. That pronounced, analyzing your letter, i would not say you ought to hurry out and get completely sterilized (and that i'm extremely professional-sterilization). you do no longer look one hundred% on the assumption... and in case you get yet another case of the toddler rabies once you're over the exhaustion of managing a new child, you could experience sorry approximately it. Tubal ligation reversals are relatively substantial surgical treatment and in effortless terms semieffective. perhaps communicate (optimistically to a diverse surgeon) approximately getting an IUD or different low-trouble sort of semipermanent b.c., and learn it for a 300 and sixty 5 days or 2. Or look right into a vasectomy on your husband... extra reversible, much less invasive medically, and you will have some sperm frozen while you're no longer one hundred%

Answer 4

Society pressure is what causes regret. My girlfriend had one years ago, at 27, and has no children. I had a vasectomy at 21, and have no children. There are no regrets here.

I live near a high end retirement community, so I know lots of people that perused careers, and did not have children. I can’t say I know anyone with regrets.

My girlfriend and I are also members of a child-free group. Most of the members are older than us. No regretters there either.

Answer 5

My late wife also had regrets after the 2nd C-section and tubes were tied. She immersed herself in raising our sons and the regret faded with time. Best wishes to you,,;-)=

Answer 6

I didn't get fixed, but my husband just did on Friday. It saddens me to know that we will never have anymore babies. But we have three, 2 boys and a girl. Our family is complete. It is now time to enjoy them and become more financially secure. I love them all so much!