I was with my bf for 12 months I got pregnant and then he left me because he said he didn't want the baby. I'm 4 months pregnant and a bit worried about raising the baby without its father. To any men from your personal experience, do you think he will want to be more involved with the child after its born? And if he decides to should I forgive him for how he treated me? OR do you think He may reject the child completely if he didnt want it in the first place?
2007-03-21 02:19:54 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a way its not really his choice. Get a paternity test completed and haul him into court to pay support. He seems like a deceitful human being if he is willing to leave you high and dry like this. This is not someone you want around you or your child at all. Forgive him? Hell NO
2007-03-21 02:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not a guy but i can tell u that he might be freaked out at the moment. a baby is a big deal and a massive change to ones life style. MY friends bf did the same thing but after the baby was born and he held her he got more involved they no longer date but he takes the baby on weekends. This wont bother your child trust me i spent time with my father on the weekends only and im fine. But there is always a large chance that he wants nothing to do with the baby as well. in this case i will say u will find theres a guy out there for the both of u. Hes not worth having as a father if he can not be mature about the situation and not a good father. GoOd luck my sister is a single mother of 3.
2007-03-21 09:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by blackraven254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that he will REJECT that child whether if the child was his child.
and i think it doesnt a good idea to find a man to be your husband till your baby born.
Because you'll get hurt more than you growing that baby yourself as a single parent.
This is your mistake, and you have a high responsibility to growing that baby yourself. Just, grow that baby your self with love, tenderness, care, etc.
I think you should pray to God to make a confession, and let him to take the control. i think God have a good plan to solve your problem, honey...
May God bless you.
Don't be sad..............
baby, i'm not a man but i have few friends which feels the same way as you feels now. And they have the same reason.Their ages were 15 yeras ole like me, but they still have to be a single parent. Till they were stopped their education at school because of ashamed they had because of their stupid.
2007-03-21 09:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by AB.Christ'91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look! This is always the problem with naive girls....just want to be in love and have the joy to make love without deep thoughts about the consequences....and after that shout for SOS....god damn irresponsible. You should either abort it or be brave to face your "punishment" to keep the child all by YOURSELF. Never think of relying on any men or that jerk anymore...basically men who ask for sex freely are not the husband material. AND PLEASE DO NOT give brith and dump it to any homes becos you are bringing your personal problem to the society and frankly speaking....the society does not owe you and unfair to account the supporting role you created....I have had enough donation to the orphanage home but these parentless children lost their parents due to natural disaster....not the type of irresponsible parents who shrinked their responsibilities after enjoying sex.
2007-03-21 09:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. Obviously, he is a ding dong.
Lots of women have babies and raise them on their own, so do not fret too much about that.
In time you will have to decide whether you want to continue any kind of relationship with him.
The thing is, it will be his child so I imagine you should let him see the baby at least. Even if he sucks as a person.
2007-03-21 09:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hit the high timbers for good. He's the type that likes all the privileges but wants none of the responsibility. But that shouldn't stop you from seeking child support from him (after all you wouldn't be in the situation you're in now if he'd kept his pants zipped up.)
Go to court; sue him for child support. Make him responsible for his actions.
2007-03-21 09:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could go both ways but he has the right as a father to see the child rather you forgive him or not. Either way he has a responsability to help support the child.
2007-03-21 09:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by charitydowling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is go on with your life. Get more education if needed, find a support group so that you can make friends. Be happy he left you with a blessing!
2007-03-21 09:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be fine raising the baby alone, as for your ex, send any scan pictures you get, and any photos after the baby is born to him so he sees its a real baby HIS BABY ! . . and he might come round,then let him get involved, but if he lets you down again then its his lose not yours because there is nothing like holding your baby.
2007-03-21 09:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not - it sounds as if he doesn't want anything to do with a family. Take him to court and make him pay for the delivery or an abortion if that is what you decide. Good luck
2007-03-21 09:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋