Would you hit a girl if ! READ?

Question

Well i found out about year ago that my ex was sleeping with another man behind my back ,
Well Turns out after we get DNA Test done that the baby is not mine ,
I the issue i have with this is ,
I was at the Birth , She told me the baby was Def mine and that she wouldnt want to bring a baby in to this world with any other man but me , She said i would be the best dad in whole world !,
Anyway we split about 3 months after she had the baby and i know from then something wasnt right ,
So when i found out the DNA Test i totaly lost it and i know it was wrong but i was so upset about what she had did to me , as being a dad felt great ! but to hav to tell your Family and friends your not a dad is one of the hardest things i have ever done ,
But one night i was out in town and i went back to my ex partner's house and gave her slap for what she did ,
Anyway i ended up in court and got 200 hours Community Service for it since it was my first ever Crime , Im not bad person ,Just Upset

I know it was wrong for slapping her but she just found it all funny and would laugh in my face like it didnt matter , I loved this girl and are little boy and she basicly kicked me out and ran of with another man with loads of money , but to find out baby is not yours after you have got him so many things and to lose contact was very hard to deal with ,

I was wrong for hitting her but i dont regret it as she should have never done what she did and lie,

All us men want is the truth , If she told me the truth i could have then said to her ok , thanks for telling me , that doent matter as ill still be his dad ect .

I know alot girls hate guys that have hit girls but im not hiding from it , Im just saying that sometimes a woman and go over the edge and totaly mess a guys head up like my ex did me, Feel free to post a commant ,

Dont need to tell me i was wrong i know , But it made me feel hell lot better , I hated her laughting in my FACE.

Thanks

Answer 1

you should never hit women, but in those circumstances i think i would find it hard not to do what you did.

nasty b!tch

Added: You are well shot of her mate, 200 hours comm service sounds like a fair deal compared to a lifetime of having to put up with her. Just remember that what goes around comes around, she'll get what she's due.

Answer 2

I noticed that 99.99% of the answers were from women against the hitting part. However you lost control and she deserved it big time. You did not hit her with your fist, and that was good, and the Judge would have probably done the same thing if it was him/her. I do not condone hitting a woman, but if you lose control especially when there is a child involved in a dispute as this there is nothing you can do. A person is not in control of them self when there is this much anger involved, so do not beat yourself up for dong it. Let them put them self in YOUR place and then they can answer the question more rationally instead of just saying you are wrong because it was a woman. My ex-wife came up to me one time years and years ago, and told me she was going to kick my butt, (she was drinking) and I did not even know she was around as it was 2:00 am in the morning and I was getting out of my car, and tried to slap me along with some guy she was seeing. She took a swing at me along with him, and I slapped the dog crap out of them both. I allow NO ONE to put their hands on me as I do not do it to others, and I will not stand by and be a punching bag for no one, male OR female. get on with your life, do the 200 hours, and be happy that you are rid of the Cow. You got off easy, and I hope she LEARNED something by not lying and playing with someones emotions.

Answer 3

As another person answered, if we all want equality then if it's alright for girls to hit guys surely it works the other way. Obviously violence should never be used to solve problems but I can completely understand why you lost it. Being a dad is a great feeling (five boys one girl myself) and I'm sure that in the future that you will find a decent girl who is worthy to be your child's mum. You are lucky to be well shot of your ex and hopefully she will one day realise what a great father she has lost for her child and will regret everything that she has done. Good luck on the 200 hours and think of it as just 5 weeks of work. If Naiomi Campbell can do it, I'm sure you can. GOOD LUCK !!

Answer 4

No I would not condone anyone who hits a woamn, or any woman who hits a man for that matter! However, I can understand completely how you did this through total humiliation and for the love you had for this girl and the love of the baby you thought to be your own!! This must have affected the whole family, as your parents would have looked upon the child as their grandchild and now it isnt! What a mess and certainly what a ***** she is for doing this to you! However mate, if I was you I would try to pick up my life and get on without her, she is worth nothing! You still have your life ahead of you and will eventually meet the right person and maybe have children of your own. You do not sound a bad person at all, in fact you sound extremely caring, and honest! You have lowered yourself to her level by hitting her but just get over that now and sort your life out for you. Good Luck Hun xx

Answer 5

this is a hard one hun - its never right to hit a woman - but then again its never right to lie about something as serious as being a baby's father.
Im sure you were somehow justified by slapping her - and it may have felt good at the time and trust me she DID deserve it - but ultimately its you that paid the price having to do community service - but worse still is that you dropped your clean living standards to reduce yourself to her level.
I think you should chalk this down to experience and move on with your life - if I had to back one person in this - it would be you - you sound like a good guy with the baby's best intentions at heart and Im sure you'll make a great dad some day!
xx

Answer 6

A lot of women would love to meet a man who wants to live up to the responsibilities of being a father. The hitting must never happen again.

Oh you'll want to sometimes,I've been married 21 years and there's no escaping that. But you can't do it.
With kids too.
But you can't ever give in to it.

Answer 7

I know everyone says "It's never ok to hit a woman" yada yada yada.... and usually that is true when a man is using his physical body to intimidate someone smaller than him. However, you reacted out of being hurt, and while I don't think you should have done it (because she has the last laugh now), we all do stupid things when we're mad. And you had every right to be mad!!! What a b!tch!!! I think that you should just learn from this situation and be more careful in the future with who you instill your trust in and be thankful that the baby isn't yours so that you can just move on and be done with her. I hope you find somebody nice and deserving of you in the future. Good luck.

Answer 8

First of all, be thankful for all the good things in your life, especially any supportive family.

You were wrong, but I can understand it. I feel sorry for you. You need a fresh new start, put it all behind you, look forward postively and try to learn anything postively that you can from this.

Just remember that you are healthy and can do anything you want. It's not like you just were hit with an IED and lost your legs. Just make good decisions from now on. Take things slow and methodically. Slow and steady wins the race. Good luck.

Answer 9

I think some women take advantage of the fact that they are nonpunishable in cases like these.
If it had been a man who had done this the woman would of been supported to give him a slap!
I know women who purposely push there partners to slap them as they get the desired result of attention and pity.
I'm not saying all women are like this and that violence to women is correct but sometimes it is almost understandable. The hurt she caused you will go on for a lot longer than the sting from the slap you gave her. Your not a bad person - you just reacted to losing things that you adored. I'm female so my comments are unbiased.

Answer 10

No weren't right, but she wasn't even worth the trip to her house in the first place.

Next time don't hook up with the ho's in the first place. If she is showing everything to everyone, she's a ho. Not that you want to be with your mom or anything, but try going to Barnes and Noble or someplace where the smart hot girls are instead of the ho chic's like the one you seemed to have found. She just wanted a double free ride for her and her baby. Find a nice girl, get married and then get married next time. The other way is just gross and not right for the baby.

Answer 11

Sounds like she deserved the slap. If it was you that had done wrong noone would have said anything if she slapped you.

However, it is wrong for anyone to be violent to anyone for any reason. I just think that us women want equality but we are still allowed to chop and change the rules on that when it suits us.

If i deserved a slap that a bloke gave me, i would just let it lie. I would also take a long hard look at myself on why i was such a fool.......u were treated harshly....