Do long distance relationships work?

Question

I have been seeing a girl for a few months now but we live a hundred and thirty miles apart. This means we only get to see each other at weekends or when we are off work. I know a lot of people have jobs that seperate them from their partner but this is a new relationship not one that is already established. I wonder what the future holds sometimes.

Answer 1

It can work. Mine has and we are 1400 miles apart, have been since the beginning. We are working on changing that right now. But my point is, if you want it to work, it can.

People in the beginning of a dating relationship would usually only see each other on weekends for dates, right? And talk on the phone a bit during the week. So, at this point, there is nothing different about the two of you other than knowing you are 150 miles apart.

Now, if there comes a time when one or both of you is ready to take the relationship to the next level, that's where you could have some issues. One of you will have to move. Unless you like being 150 miles apart most of the time.

Answer 2

They can work! I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years, most of it long distance (first his uni, then mine) and we have another year to go until I graduate.

Obviously it's not an ideal situation but we've made the most of it, we speak on the phone everyday, use msn and skype to have video conversations.

You both have to be 100% commited to this relationship and also have a lot of trust for each other, I do know of a long distance couple where he doesn't trust her - she hasn't cheated - but he makes a big fuss when she goes out with her friends and quite a few times she has stayed in on her own to avoid the hassle.

Have your own social life (you can't spend your time wishing you were together - it will make you miserable) and see each other when you can (I have gone up to 6 weeks without seeing him!). It's not easy, but if you both want to make it work you gotta put in the effort. Although I have been with my bf for so long it still feels we're in the 'honeymoon' stage! We hardly ever argue cos when we're together just just too happy :). Oh, and one last thing if you do have any arguments when you're apart over the phone, sort them out before you hang up, it's not nice having to wait a whole day until you speak again

Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

I only get to see my boyfriend at weekends,and we've been together 2 1/2 years. It can work if both people want it to and are willing to invest in the relationship. It all depends on the people involved. Use your weekends together to really enjoy each other's company,and speak to each other during the week. The fact you're not living in each other's pockets may make you appreciate each other and the time you have together even more!

Answer 4

if u really want it to then it will but u have to put alot of time and effort in it though. Just b/c u 2 are long distance doesn't mean that u can't have a really good relationship with each other. I know from experience that it works so don't give up on it ok.

Answer 5

I was in a long distant relationship with my now husband. We are both in the military and didn't always get to see each other when we first started dating. As long as you can communicate with each other, are truthful no matter what, and really want to be together then yes it can work. Long distant relationships aren't easy and require work that most people don't want to have to put into one. If neither of you are willing to communicate, then it won't work. Good Luck!

Answer 6

From personal experence, no! But then again, I was the one that broke it off, but it did last for half a year. It's hard and frustrating that you can't see them at all. You both have to be truly committed!!!!! Talk often. However, you never know what they are doing, there so far away. Another may fall in their arms. =( It's all about TRUST< COMMITMENT & Honesty!!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

im in a long distance relationship (about the same distance as you are) thats about to become alot larger, as ive recently joined the army, so im going to be transferred to a base far away (about 3000km's) and we are still going to try, if you think its worth trying then no-one has the right to say any different, talk to your gf, find out her opinions and make a decision that will be best for the two of you in the long run, goodluck=)

Answer 8

They can work as long as it's only 130 miles and not 1300 miles. Call me crazy, but I would drive the 130 miles each day if she was special to me.

Answer 9

Nope. It works for a little while but after a few months, it just gets too difficult and fizzles away to nothing. Save yourself the hurt and dont even bother trying.

Answer 10

The odds are that this won't last. Long distances usually mean trouble maintaining the closeness you feel for the other person. Don't be surprised if she finds someone else (or they find her.)