what should i tell her to do or what advise should i give her? this is something that her boyfriend wants not so much her.
has anyone else ever been i this situation?
if so do you believe it is wrong and hoeish.
2007-03-21 01:43:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she sosen't want to do it, she shouldn't... This is something that all three should be interested in. If she does it just to please him, it could haunt her later. No it does not make her "hoeish" It is something that alot of people enjoy. My husband and I enjoy it, but we also know that it's not for everyone and do not judge others for not wanting it.
2007-03-21 01:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is into it then it's all good. If not then she shouldn't sacrafice her position to make her boyfriend happy. If he doesn't understand that she doesn't want to and want to pressure her into it then she should break up with him. Personally I think that a situation where there are two members of one sex and one of the other is one where the two people want to dominate the other one. In this case it is obvious that your friends boyfriend doesn't want to have a romantic experience when he has sex with her. He wants himself and his friend to be able to just use her and move on. The fact that he is trying to give his girlfriend to his friend is kind of strange to me anyway. You should tell your friend that if she does do it that her boyfriend will expect it from her from now on and if she doesn't want to do it anymore he will probably dump her.
I don't think that it's "hoeish" if everyone is into it. There's nothing wrong with someone enjoying sex. Just don't get pressured into it. Sure, other people will feel differently about it then I do but you shouldn't worry about what other people think anyway as long as you are supportive of what you do.
2007-03-21 05:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell her what to do only advise her as a friend. In the end it's her choice but she needs to respect herself and own body. The big risk is that she may end up pregnant to one of them or catching an STD and if it's something she's willing to take responsibility for then who are you to advise her against it?
2007-03-21 01:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her boyfriend wants to do it because he is selfish and horny it is a mans fantasy to be with two woman. he should respect her feelings too. When you are in a relationship you cant just think of your self you have to think of the other person too. If she doesn't want to do it than she should tell her boyfriend that and if can't understand that than he is the wrong guy for her. You have to respect each others feelings.
2007-03-21 05:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♫Rock'n'Rob♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to do a 3 sum for two reason one its his fantasy and another he thinks she might enjoy it...If she isnt feeling comfortable she should tell him...I dont think a 3 sum is for everyone...and some might say its hoe-ish thing...but no one has to know what goes on in the bedroom what they dont know wont hurt...
2007-03-21 05:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be honest with her bf and tell him that she is not into that sort of thing. If she starts down this road she going to have to keep doing it because he bf is clueless to what her desires are. Relationships are a two way street, its not about what the man wants. Its also about what the woman wants and if she is comfortable with it.
2007-03-21 01:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swinging / Swapping / Open relationships usually end badly..
Only safe multi-partner sex is a 3some with girl Always inviting
the other girl...Guy never contacts the other girl alone...
Never ever have another guy or couple in your bed...
Been there....Done that...
She should look for a better b/f...
2007-03-21 05:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want it, then strongly suggest to her not to do it.
I don't think it's wrong, hell I've done some crazy things, but nothing that I never wanted to do sexually like mfm.
2007-03-21 01:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is her boyfriend bi? There aren't too many guys who would share a girl unless they were drunk.
2007-03-21 01:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE WANTS ANOTHER GUY?? thats a little weird.
2007-03-21 01:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋