I was with this girl for three years, she is everything to me! we broke up in a lovely way but she has started hanging around with my friends from work, because her friend is with one of them! so every time i go out town i will see them having a good laugh, I have gone mad under the influence of alchohol several times, which has spoilt our relation ship.
I want her back and i know she still cares for me! so when im out how do i go about making her want me again? what should i do when i see the group? How do i blow her away and make her want to be part of my life again? x
2007-03-21 01:42:15 · 29 answers · asked by worduptoto 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop drinking. clean yourself up. take up some interesting hobbies and start working out regularly. also stop hanging out with the people from work, if you know she'll be there. tell them you have to go to the gym or use whatever as an excuse.
wait a while (longer than 1 month), and immerse yourself in your hobbies and working out... then attend a party you know she'll be at, so you can show her your new and improved attitude. if she doesn't bite, then forgot her. at least you got some new hobbies and a better body in that time.
2007-03-21 01:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real truth is that no matter what you do or what she does, you two will always be attracted to each other even though you might no be lovers again.
I think you should just save yourself the effort and time and look for a new relationship rather than try and mend an old one, its not worth it coz its never gonna be the same again even if you manage to win her back.
I think that you are scared of moving on, which is the wrong the to do. Picture this, for all these years you have managed to live without her so what has changed now? Just move on dude and find yourself another girl in your life.
And when you meet her with her friends just show her that you are also living your life and that you have managed to move on with life. Trust me, if you do what i have said above, you will be helping yourself and your EX.
2007-03-21 02:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by loxzibit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing bugs a woman more than an ex acting like they don't care. As long as you pine after her she will know she can have you whenever she wants.
Don't call her. Don't text her. When you see her out with YOUR friends (I would question if they really are true friends) speak, say hi, and then go on with your business. If you know it's going to bother you being in the same place as her then listen to your intincts and leave. Trust me, she will be breaking her neck trying to find you.
She broke up with you for a reason and the only thing that will make her second guess what she did is if she sees you moving on with your life.
You should have more respect for yourself by not wanting to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Good luck.
2007-03-21 01:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by teacher101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to her as a secret fan. If you have her e-mail address it's' perftect. If not buy a new mobile phone and text her. Be poetic, dont' be afraid ... dont' give up if you don't get an answer. If you do, dont' give out who you are but give out hints, so she would start thinking. keep telling her how lovely she is and how much you adore her. I reckon she might love it. When you see her in town don't' give out the sings apart from having interest only when the circumstances are right. Dont' miss the chance when it's looking the right time for it.
Apart from that, do you really want her or are you jealous that she seems to be having a good time without you? Be clear about what you really want. Good luck.
2007-03-21 04:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is not drink when you are around her, Believe me there is NOTHING worse than seeing a boyfriend or ex going nuts when they are drunk, that is the best way to get rid of her!!!! Also, you need to see her on her own, not with your other friends as you need to talk privately. Find out if this is what she wants first though, she may not want to get back with you, and chasing her will just push her further and further away.
Call her and ask her if she would like to meet up, tell her how you feel and just be honest with her, what have you got to lose? If she says she just want to be friends then you have to leave it as that and accept that it's over, chasing her will just turn her against you.
Good luck
2007-03-21 01:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by giving up the booze....it appears that your outbursts and having gone mad under the influence of alcohol is the problem. Join an AA group, go to the meetings. This will blow her away. I would bet you need to make an admission that alcohol is a problem, likely you owe her an apology (do it sober). Hope she considers giving you one more chance. Good Luck.
2007-03-21 01:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, DO NOT try to blow her away and use jealousy. it only makes us girls mad! The best thing I think, is to do something like this. Leave her roses on her porch, or her favorite candy. Something romantic like that. Attached have a HADN WEITTEN letter for her, telling her ho w much she means to you, and that you can not imagine life without her. Tell her you are ready to give up the booz if she is ready to give you another chance. Then at the bottom, leave the address and time of a romantic meeting place. Ask her to meet you there. If she comes, then she is ready and willing to give it another try. if she does not come, then you have your answer.
I really hop[e this all works out for you. Good luck!
2007-03-21 02:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well can you not post a little letter at her house and show her how much you miss having her and how much you want her back tell her maybe ask her out go for a meal or something so that you are alone and can talk and another thing when you see the group if u are friendly with them why dont you jst say a little hello they may ask you to join them good luck n e way and another thing dont drink so much alcohol if you cant control yourself lol
2007-03-21 01:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by x-..lauren..-x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could try going out to the places she goes, make it out to be some kind of fate thing, but dont stalk her do this stealthly.
put on a happy optimistic attidude and if u spot her in say like a night club....go dance near her!
smile at her when u see her if u are 2 shy to say hello. she will smile back because a smile can be an infectious thing.
but at the end of the day just go out and have fun and if u are ment to be it will happen but just dont be a fool for her because at the end of the day u cant make her love u.
2007-03-22 10:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by To put it bluntly... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST BE STRIAGHT UP!!!!!!!! she'll see that your a man who knows what he wants in life becuase you just told her striaght up........ be real tell her how you feel.......... pull her aside from her friends who knows maybe she'll come out and tell you she wants you back to but make sure you dress nice and stop gettin drunk alcohol isnt the answer try being sober for a while read a book when your mad?sad go to a pool the beach anything ok???? best of luck
2007-03-21 01:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋