trouble is we were long distance never had sex and now she dumped me i trying to think of things i didnt like about her but still cant help thinking what might of been, now she has found someone else!!!!! i keep drifting between tears and total anger help
2007-03-21 01:34:56 · 33 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone else. It's the only way, along with the time healing stuff which no doubt you've already heard.
2007-03-21 01:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to get over her, she wasn't the love of your life, remember that! the love of your life is someone, who loves you more than anything, who would do anything for you, respects you, knows what you want, is connected to you in every way possible.
anger? it's totally understandable, and is the first step towards forgetting her. feel angry with her, say all the bad stuff you can about her, then after a time this anger will pass, and those things you said about her will seem very far away, and you will be free to love anybody you like.
what might have been? if it was real love, it would have lasted. don't blame the distance, and the fact that you never had sex. you will find someone, who will love you as much as you love her. heads up, there is a beautiful life out there waiting for you, don't let it pass you!
2007-03-21 01:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your never going to get over her. What you can do is cherish the time you had together and put it in your past. Anger is not going to help you, just makes the pain worse. Instead try forgiving her. If you really love her (and she is the love of your life) be happy that she found someone that she can be happy with. If you guys are meant to be eventually you will find your way back to each other. If not you'll always have the memories. Also, it might be healthy for you to go out and start dating again (Important fact to remember: don't compare all the women you date to the love of your life - its not fair to the women who you are dating because your opinion on this matter is going to be biased to begin with).
2007-03-21 01:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right u need to do things to keep your mind off of it. You were in a long distance relationship and she might not even like this guy she might just need some attention. Anyway, rent some movies, video games, go out to eat with a friend, or anything else you really enjoy. Finding a rebound girl to hang out with isn't a bad idea either. It will give u something to do plus might make your ex-girl jealous. stay strong for two weeks and it will be over.
2007-03-21 01:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by wutzcrackinb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how long you were in love - me I've been with mine for nearly 4 years and now he says he wants me to leave - and there is no- one else, but he wants to look! - Would love to know how to deal with it!!!!!!
Have you tried to talk about it to her to find out what the problem was - was it the fact that you were long distance? Does this new 'someone' live closer?
We all think of 'what if' .............. that is only a day-dream and dreams are nothing like real-life. I know it is really hard right now - but best thing is to keep busy and do what you are doing - focus on the negative aspects of your relationship, and try to move forward with your life.
2007-03-21 01:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by blue_sapphire07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer is time... the longer answer is a bit more complicated. She may feel like the love of your life for now, and for some time, but people do move on. They have to or they'll never allow anyone else in to their hearts.
Keep in mind, people remarry - and that suggests that there's more than one person out there that's right for you - maybe at different times of your life. I hope your heart starts healing soon, and I'd suggest that you don't start dating until you feel ready - it wouldn't be fair to lead another along if you're still hurting too deeply and longing for a past love. Just a woman's perspective.
Don't expect too much from yourself, but do keep yourself busy. Most of us have been broken hearted at some stage. I feel for you.
2007-03-21 14:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by AIMI C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny. Dont worry. Why dont you email her/write to her and say how much you miss her and cant get over her and no matter how far from each other you are love can ALWAYS be strong. Also include all the good things about her, and how you are so broken hearted. If she doesnt take notice...Just keep trying and I think when her and her boyfriend break up, she'll need a shoulder to cry on, and you'll be there.
2007-03-21 02:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, i know how u feel its really up setting when you have split up and you really love that person, its really hard to begin with, when me and my bf split up i was always crying and stoped eating i was angry with him, u will get over her it might not seem it but you will, i thought i would never get over him but i did, i moved on, you just have to think you dont need her you can do better then her i did and the pain does go away. when you a ready to move on find a girl that is living near you, trust me you will be happy again it just take time. hope this helps x
2007-03-21 03:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that happened. Keep yourself busy if you don't have a hobby get one and go out with friends. Of course it is going to be hard and you will be reminded of her and think of her but eventually you will either find someone new or realize that you are independant enough without her and you will do just fine...don't sit around and mope it will only make things harder!!!
2007-03-21 01:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by css22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're upset about someone you never even had sex with? Just chalk this up as a learning experience and try to meet someone else.
Talk to a doctor who may be able to give you an anti-depressant.
2007-03-21 01:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋