What if it was all your fault in being dumped?

Question

What happens if the reason that he fell out of love with you because you weren't yourself or the person he did fall in love with in the first place. I wasn't myself for the last year (we were living together this year) of a 3 year relationship because of me being scared of losing him. I did extreme measures to make him happy, like being available to him all the time, letting him do what he wants avoiding any serious conflict (basicly losing my independence and identity). The reason why i did this was because he had committment issues in the past with me which made me think that if did everything to make him happy i won't lose him, but then he dumps me teliing me that he wasn't happy in the last couple of months and doesn't feel the same way by doesn't know why. I still love him and I regret in what I have done (in my case in losing myself first and then second, losing him)

it's been 3 months ever since we broke up, i have not made any contact with him, I have boosted my self esteem and independence, i travelled arond europe I moved in with my best girlfriend, started a new job, and i started dating, i feel happy about myself, but i still love him, these feelings haven't changed. Within these three months I have realised that I don't NEED him in my life to be happy, so I have become more independant and more confident, but I still desire him, I want him, is that so wrong.

Answer 1

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You have facts to prove your theory.
Since the breakup, everything about your life has been positive.
During the relationship, everything was negative.

What that means is that you miss the company, not necessarily HIM.
HE was negative and condescending, remember?
YOU did most of the work, even bending yourself into a pretzel, but he didn't appreciate it. If he did - you'd still be with him. You had to make a decision that, in hindsight, was beneficial to you.

How can you appreciate someone or something that doesn't know your value?

Good luck!

Answer 2

You should look for someone that loves you as you are not what you are trying to be to please him. That is too much work and not a real relationship. I think you are wasting your time thinking about him. Move on. He has!