My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months and he moved in with me last night because his mom and him got into a physical fight...well actually his mom punched him in the face, the problem is he is really clingy and I've tried to explain it to him in the nicest way possible, but then he freaks out and starts saying things like I am going to break up with him. He then starts crying and freaking out even more. I love the boy but if he keeps acting like this, I fear that I will have no choice but to break up with him. How in the world could I explain to him that he is too clingy and he is suffocating me without him freaking out?
2007-03-21 01:10:55 · 7 answers · asked by twiztid_child_of_darkness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. better frighten him by saying that u r going to leave him
2007-03-21 01:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him that you need to talk to him and ask him to please listen to everything you have to say before he responds. Tell him that you love him and love to spend time with him but you need a little "me" time. Tell him that needing some time alone doesn't mean, in any way, that you want to break up or be with someone else. You just need a little space.
His strong reaction shows some psychological issues there. It sounds, to me, like needs some time to do a little self discovery. There's a reason that he is so clingy with you. If you can figure out what it is and reassure him that, what ever his fear is, wont happen then things will be a lot better for you. It could be something that happened with a ex-girlfriend or family member or just low self confidence.
If you do truly love him and want to work things out with him then it's going to take some time and patience from you to work through this and get to the bottom of things. You could start small and tell him that you just want an hour to take a bath or read a book and to please not interrupt you during that time. Then work your way up to a night out with the girls or what ever.
2007-03-21 08:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow...yea the biggest relationship busters and love killers are neediness, forced obligation, and expectations. This dude has all three. I think perhaps you might approach it in the following manner. Tell him that YOU have needs, and things you need and must do on your own so you can grow and that it would be more beneficial for the relationship if he too pursued some activities outside the relationship. You know you have to be careful here. His mother with that horrible behavior has contributed big time to his insecurities and clinginess...she hit her son in the face? Unreal. It is soooo hard to convince someone that you are not their mother, father or an ex they had a problem with but you have to try. Good luck.
2007-03-21 08:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can answer this question b/c i see you two all the time and i agree he is too clingy... you need to just say before hand hey we need to talk and its not about breaking up its about helping out our relationship.... then talk to him about and if he does freak out then you need to tell him that you two need a break cuz if he loves the way i think he does then he will stay single and wait till you are done with the break cuz now i know you love him i can see it when you two are together butlike i said i di think he is too clingy and so take my advice dont end the relationship right now just talk to him and see what happens...... and in my eyes i feel that if a guys cries he is way too clingy LOL well love yah your bestie **** you know who i am so i dont have to say it right????
2007-03-21 08:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by i should be a councelor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him read your question and some of the answers you get. If that doesn't make him understand what you want and need, or not, after that, he is just way to immature. Move on.
2007-03-21 08:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Gary G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you love him right? Tehn dont be scared of his freakiness...its you who can get him out of it...and u hv to be patient enuff with him and try n calm him down and explain things to him so that he understand them and if he loves you he surely will...and yeah dont forget the magic of hugs :) Goodluck!
2007-03-21 08:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgurl_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL HIM TO APOLIGIZE TO HIS MOTHER AND THAT HE SHOULD GET AN APARTMENT
2007-03-21 08:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥ filipino bunny ♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋