ok so i have this boyfriend who is 18 and i am 16 and he is in a group home and i only see him 4 times a week which is ok we have been seeing each other since december and i love him too death and he said that he loves me and he is getting out in june and i cant wait BUT his ex girlfriend just came back and told him that when he gets out she wants him back and now he is in the middle of choosing between me or her and im really frustrated b/c if he loves me the way he says he does he wouldnt have to choose. Oh yeah his ex is 27 years old with 3 kids. and to top it all off he has been lying to me b/c he told me he has only had 1 other girl friend named kayla and now this chick comes up i just want to know if i should trust him cuz im scared that if he does choose me he will cheat on me with her. Just please help me.
2007-03-21 00:54:19 · 14 answers · asked by i should be a councelor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should be asking different questions, such as:
Why do I settle for someone who is in a group home?
Why do I so badly want someone who has proven to make bad decisions, lives in a way that is not good, tells lies and keeps more than 2 girlfriends at any given time and cheats?
Why don't I love myself enough so that I don't feel like I want a man who wants me to be happy with being just one of his many girlfriends?
You need to take a real hard look at your self-esteem, find out where things went wrong with how you feel about yourself - and once you find out and work out those issues and learn to truly value and love yourself, you won't ask questions like the one you posted anymore because you'll think highly enough of yourself NOT to put yourself in this kind of situation again.
Good luck to you. You deserve better, I hope you realize that soon too.
2007-03-21 01:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and it sounds like this boyfriend of yours has too many issues for you. There is no need be frustrated because it just stresses you out. For years I spent time being frustrated by men who I thought love me, but their actions showed otherwise. Try to meet a nice boy your age who is in school, not living in a group home, and who has his act together. Also, you should focus on school and getting ready for college. Your future is coming up soon and you do not need to waste your time on a guy who pursues older women. He sounds like a liar on top of all of this. I wish you the best of luck in finding a better man.
2007-03-21 01:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you that he once he gets out that he will be choosing between the 2 of you? If he did, I am thinking that it may be best just to make the choice for him and break it off. If he really loves you, he would have told you that his ex came to see him and told him that she wants him back but that he told her that he is with you now and that he plans to be with you once he is out. I understand that you love him and want to be with him but this situation is destined to turn out bad.
2007-03-21 01:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why he never mentioned this pther girlfriend is because he still loves her.He has been cheating on you and will continue if you let him.So leave him and find someone who can tell you the truth if they love you or just want you for a friend but have a lover.
2007-03-21 01:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 16 you have your life ahead of you. three months is not an eternity. "group home" means that he is a criminal? at 16-you can do better. let the 27 year old have him...
2007-03-21 00:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.....i think if he really cares for you he would not even be considering of not choosing the other girl.....you should definitely trust him cause if theres no trust in a relationship you ain't going nowhere.......
2007-03-21 01:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should rethink tis relationship. It seems like there is a lot of dishonesty going on. There are lots of guys out there - not all of them are lying!
2007-03-21 00:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is
he is not your boy friend any longer
you are now a member of a company which you may have 50% of the shares
may be less
2007-03-21 00:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, find love elsewhere, if it smells like poos it probably is so dont waste your valuable years on a looser
2007-03-21 00:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by gingermano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is going on and on, it will not wait for you, you are young and should be active enogh, try not to be dependent on somebody.
2007-03-21 01:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by jamshid m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋