i need suggestions for my 15 yr old son........help!!!!!!!!?

Question

my son is 15 years old and has become really moody and more violent than normal, i was in an abusive relationship when he was younger, but have been with my hubby for 7 years now who is loving and kind, my son has everything he asks for and no need to pull knives on us or smash the house up, i have took him to docs for tests for adh ect but all clear, he is so intelligent but constantly bunks off school getting us in trouble when we think he is there, we have took his stuff off him, smacked him, grounded him, and gone the other way rewarding him and bribing him but nothing works, im housebound with arthuritus and my hubby has to take our other 5 kids to school 4 are disabled, i feel he is hanging with the wrong crowd and have caught him drinking and smoking, if we try and keep him in the police get involved as he threatens us with knifes ect, we are at our wits ends social services and family support have been involved but can't do much any suggestions apart from killing him or having

Answer 1

I am inno way criticising you but as a mum of four have been through the darkest times possible. is it a possibility that he is crying for some one to one attention as well as going through puberty. having serious health problems yourself with the added strain of caring for his four disabled siblings cant leave much time for him. Try even once a week, even for a few hours to spend time alone with him and perhaps he'll open up. i truly sympathise, been there, done it and got the bleeded t-shirt. have faith there's a fine young man underneath just bursting to get out. good luck and god bless

Answer 2

If your son is threatening you with knives and you have younger children in the house the Social Services HAVE to do something. You are putting your children at risk and have to put a stop to this immediately. Your son is going through a difficult time and he needs professional help, He needs to be removed from the house for everyone sake. Call the police and they will have to inform Children's services. Don't allow this to continue, you may live to regret it.

Answer 3

Killing him? what? definately dont smack a 15 year old kid. have you taken him to a proffesional psychologist? its a sticky situation. I cant suggest much and i dont think this is a question you should ask on here. Maybe move away from this. Or send him to a strict boarding school if you think that its the wrong crowd that hes hanging out with. Its a phase. He wants to be rebellious but maybe theres something psychological thats causing it and not physical. Definately go see a proffesional psychologist or psychiatrist

Answer 4

i feel so sorry for you i watched my mum go through this with my brother a long time ago now his 25 and still in prison his been in and out since he was 16 it all started with him hangging round with the wrong crowd my mum had it bad too she had rumatoid and was bed bound her self he had hit her and allsorts too he stole off us all and we found out its was a drug habbit it started with lighter gas and went on to a cocain habbit i can suggest social servises as i know there not always there to distroy famielys they are there to help as well it must be hard as you have so many other children to care for too i have 4 children myslef i could also suggest get an older someone thats been there done it and seen it if you get my drift to talk and maybe they will get to the real problem of what it is and get on his level my husbond in his teens had done it all drugs drink the lot and now wants to help people like you son please if you have no where els to turn my email is annesnashall@btinternet im here allday and i would like to help you i know its not a joke. i dont know where you live but we can sort something out !!

Answer 5

This may sound drastic, but this is what we've done with our son in the past... Your local YMCA probably has a youth shelter for troubled kids like your son. They will allow your son to stay there for a period of time, but he will have strict rules and have to go to daily counseling. The Y will even provide transportation to and from school. One time when my son kicked me in the arm, we had him arrested and he went to juvenielle hall for a couple of days. He had to appear before a judge and was put on house arrest. He had to come straight home from school to answer the phone when the call came in to make sure he was home. We had to Baker Act him one time. He was sent to a physiciatric hospital for kids and put on meds. My son did admit he felt better. Like I said, a lot of parents couldn't do that, but when you're desperate, you will do just about anything to save your child. I wish you luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is on drugs or perhaps being bullied by someone the best thing you can do is sit him down and talk to him 15 is a strange age but no kid should raise there hand nether mind a knife to there mother

Answer 7

Threatening with knives. Directly to the police. 15 is a tough age. Never ever ever an excuse to threaten people with knives. Let him sort it out in jail.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

maybe he shouldnt have everything he ask for does he earn anything to many kids are just handed everything today they dont know what it is to earn something yes as parents we want better for are kids but they have to learn it takes work and effort to get there someone isnt going to be there the rest of there lives just to hand it to them and yes i do have child and grandkids so i know a little like i told my kids u get in trouble at 18 you are an adult and will answer for it yourself we as parents can only do so much i wish there was and easy way but there isnt hope all works out for u and your family your in my thoughts

Answer 10

hes 15?!!! hes a kid, confused, feels batrayed, he hates you guys ryt now, wants to impress the wrong people, listens to bull **** music. it dosnt sound like the homestead is too stable either. my suggestion is to send him to military school. get him out of the enviorment that hes in. he sounds influencable, so no matter where he goes he blend right in. this is a very crusial time in his life, this is the point where he goes from boy to man. he kinda sounds like myself...except the pulling knives on my mother. you should have him arrested, throw his *** in jail for a week or so. seriously...military school, boot camp, lincolns challenge. if you want to save your son get him away from where he is at. there are goverment funded organizations who float most the bill, just look into it. he'll be back in 3 years, his balls'll drop, grow a few inches and he'll be a man. you got 3 years. if he stays where hes at, he might wind up in prison or dead. help him for christs sake, hes your son, and your his mother, get it together.