My child already has a broken arm from playing soccer, could this be the reason for her anger at bed time. She is a great kid all day, until 8pm. Should I just forget about the issue and let her stay up?
2007-03-21 00:44:45 · 18 answers · asked by melissa_lark 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You have to stand your ground and make her go to bed when its time. You have to realize at this age she is still testing her limits with you, and she's expressing her independence, and this is one of the many instances.
You can tell her if she does not go to bed at 8PM you will take something from her... like TV time, take away a favorite toy, or put her in time out ( one minute for every year she is, which is three). Also try making bedtime a fun time instead of all the stress... I know you look at the clock at 7:30PM and you sigh, "in thirty minutes she's going to be screaming about bedtime...". Read her a book at bedtime; then after reading it ask her about the story. This could also be a good time for you and her to talk quietly, ask her about her day and tell her how proud you are about her going to bed on time and how 'grown up' she is for doing it. But you MUST turn it into a positive situation, otherwise you both will be going through this for some time. And she's almost at pre-school age, so she needs to start now going to bed early to get her ready for school hours, and getting up early.
Good luck to you hon, I hope my advice works.
2007-03-21 01:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by gokusgirl_2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could try a homeopathic sleep aid to get her to calm down. Benadryl works as well, by the way (but don't overdose her and follow instructions for length of use). In Italy, there's something called Nopron, which is an over the counter sleep aid as well. Also, try not going from tv watching directly to bed (if you do that now). Give her some quiet time and see if maybe she's less agitated if you eliminate tv 30-45 minutes before she goes to sleep. Good luck!
2007-03-25 03:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Alexzoo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the previous poster. My daughter is/was very scared of the dark. Plus her daddy(my hubby) was deployed to Iraq and she would HATE to go to bed. The dark scared her. So I was told to leave the light on. I bought her a sound machine but one that plays music/stories and you can watch it. Also a really cool fish light, it moves like a fish tank. Anyhow there might be something that is making her hate bedtime. In my daughters case, it was her daddy being gone and me leaving her in bed at night made her feel insecure. So during the day I make sure to spend as much time with her as I can(harder when I have a baby now too) My point is you know your child. It might be she just wants to win control. But make a deal with her. Leave the lights on, and reward her. It isn't going to ruin her in the long run. I told my daughter for a week, if she fell asleep on her own, a toy fairy would bring her a toy(dollar store toy) and it WORKED. She has some days now that she gets upset. But nothing like it use to be. Hope I helped!
2007-03-22 00:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by AB 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well since she 3 she should not be staying up anytime past 7:00. It is not good for her body. And her getting a broken arm is soccer may not cause the anger issues. If she gets angry to start out take a pillow then give it to her ask her to put her face to the pillow and ask her to screem. To let out her anger. Then if you can just sit down and talk to her. I know she is 3 but I'm just trying to help and this might help. then when it comes to her bed time she needs to go to sleep before 8 try 7. Then when she is going to to her room after she brushes her teeth and everything sit on hte edge of her bed and stroke her head. Stroking her head will relax her muscles and hopefully help her sleep. Then if she tries to dicobey you just sit her in a chair get on your knees so that your eyes meet. But stay at least 3 feet away so that your not intimadating because that can be scary to them. But tell her why she is sitting in the chair with a nice calm and soothing voice. Tell her that she isn't alowed to do that. Then once she calms down tell her that you love her. It reasures the child so that they don't think that you are angry with them. But she needs to know that she can not do that. Well I hope it works out for you and if not just say something and I can try to help you again.
2007-03-21 07:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by Asheera 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is she still napping during the day? If so,maybe she is napping too long is just isn't tired enough. Have you tried reading a bedtime story? I Used to get my kids into bed and tell them I would come and check on them in 5-10 minutes and I would. Usually they were asleep after 1 or 2 checks. If all else fails tell her you are going to bed and shut off all the lights etc and she will probably run for the safety of her bed! Then just get up after she is asleep and enjoy your quiet time.
2007-03-21 07:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We had this problem with my daughter. It is very very stressful. She would get up in the middle of the night and come into our bed. etc. We had someone tell us to put a baby gate in front of the door. I didnt want to close it since she was afraid of the dark. I bought a soothing sounds machine. I would lay with her for five minutes or so, read a book, relax, put the sound machine on. She aslo got a bath every other night to relax her. Good luck. She is 12 now and I cant get her out of bed now.
2007-03-21 09:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by tcg7213 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only 3 and already in control? Watch out for those teen years if you don't nip this in the bud. Watch her schedule, her eating habits, does she take a nap? Maybe she just needs more attention. Try lieing down w/her and reading a book at bedtime. And don't be afraid to paddle her God given seat of learning. Try reading James Dobson's book The Strong Willed Child. Parenting is a full time job. I've raised 4.
2007-03-21 07:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lone Papa 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well I often watch Super Nanny, and I've seen this issue before on that show. What Jo advises is that you take the child to his/her bedroom, lay them down on the bed, say goodnight and leave. Do NOT respond in any way to the screaming/yelling/kicking/hitting. If the child continues leaving his/her bed, continue the same method continuously until the child finally goes to sleep. It may take some time, but she will eventually realize that when you say bedtime, you mean business, and that is her only option.
2007-03-21 07:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by lipgloss_black85@sbcglobal.net 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Maybe she is scared of the dark! But, maybe she has a lot of other problems besides that! No matter what, maybe it would be best to take het to the psychiatrist for those kind of problems! I think that will help her!
I hope I helped!
Good luck!
2007-03-25 02:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not nearly enough info and i'm not a perent but I would suggest calling the pediatrician and telling them some history and all the details.It could be anything
It may also depend on what time the little one gets up in the morning and maybe how many haps she takes during the day also?
make the call i'd say... nobody knows your girl and all the little things about her like you and her doctor
2007-03-21 07:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋