I split up with my long term boyfriend last October, he cheated several times.
We have had no contact, and I dont want any either!
I have recently found out tha he is Bi Sexual !!! and has been with other men!!!!!
Has this happened to anyone, either being on the receiving end like me or have you been the one to discover u are bi sexual?
Wot are ur thoughts and feelings...sensible answers please.
2007-03-21 00:41:18 · 18 answers · asked by ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wasn't honest with me at all, I found out thru other sources!
Also I know he was using condoms, cos I found them in his wallet!
2007-03-21 00:51:49 · update #1
1. noooooooo
2007-03-21 00:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! you must have gotten an awful shock! Ive never been on the receiving - or giving end of this - but I think the fact that he cheated should still be what hurts the most .
I guess its hard for us to comment on what was going through his head- he was probably very confused over his sexuality and maybe hoped that by sleeping with these men - he could sort out what his preference was and make a go of things with you??
Also - at least he had enough consideration to use protection and not put your health at risk.
I know cheating is cheating - but when it comes to something like bisexuality - I think due to how screwed up the persons head may be tryting to decipher if they are bi - or just curious - that its not as bad as it would be in normal circumstances - and look on the bright side - woudnt it be a lot worse if he'd cheated on you with some hot blonde chick!
xx
2007-03-21 07:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right firstly just because you found condoms in his wallet doesn't necessarily mean he is using them. and secondly i split up with my first proper boyfriend last june as he was upset with me for kissing someone else but what he didn't tell me is he was dating another guy. i was not impressed as you could imagine but he'd thought he was completely gay which i was refusing to believe he now knows he is bi-sexual and him and his new girlfriend are fine. I am also bi-sexual.
The thing is may i just ask you one question.
If you don't want any contact with him then why are you wanting to know what is inside his head now? if you are completely sure you want no contact then you shouldn't really be thinking about him.
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2007-03-21 08:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by lymphaticgothicvamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, it can be hard to except that he wasn't honest with you but, try to remember it could be scary for him to put it out there. Not everyone is open minded. In order to make this work you need to sit down and really talk about it. Like are you comfortable with him seeing other men as long as you are the only girl? If yes, do you want to know about it ? I was with someone who was bi. It can work but, you can't be jealous or, he'll never dare to talk to anyone! You want him to have friends! Just tell him no more cheating and work out what cheating really is to you. If he was only seeing other guys he might not feel he did you wrong, if there were other girls...I'd dump him.
2007-03-21 07:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by sistermarybella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of us know for sure if this has ever happened to any of us. I think in your case that you just happened to find out your ex was bi, but some men might not tell their former/current girlfriends/wives. I would get tested for STD's because all people can carry these. Do not worry too much and I hope everything will be okay.
2007-03-21 07:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God I've never had this to happen to me and i sympathize with you for having to hear that from the streets assuming that it's even true. I'm the type person that would probably still ask him about it because if a person is like that they shouldn't hide it from people that aren't Bi Sexual because it's very deceiving. I wish you much luck and happiness on your next boyfriend.
2007-03-21 07:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hasnt happened to me either, but how horrible for you i think id be quite freaked out.
My best friend started dating a man at her work, now my friend is stunning, and this bloke was quite a looker. He kissed her, but never laid a finger on her, she thought he was a real gent, most blokes want to sleep with her right away. After a month or so he invited her to go away with him to his parents for the weekdend, which she excepted, until his boyfriend got the *** about it all and told my mate the truth.
He was gay, and he didnt want his parents to know so he had been planning the whole thing coz his mum was getting suspicious. Taking her away to meet them, then when he got back he was going to dump her. She was shocked, but not upset luckily as they hadnt fallen in love or anything like that, and had only ever kissed.
Poor you.
2007-03-21 07:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out with a Bi lass for a while. We split up cause she couldn't understand why I thought it was cheating if she went with another woman behind my back. And no, she wasn't up for 3 somes, purely one-on-one, just liked to vary it. Nice enough lass, just a bit confused!
2007-03-21 07:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by PhoenixRights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mate had a simular problem but she went out with this boy-thomas and later discovered he eas bi.she found out that he snoged another boy behind her back.she dumped him and went out with this boy called mark.it turned out that tomas had kissed and slept with him in the past,she felt used.but if i were u,i wld leave him its obvious that he doesnt knw what he wants.personaly i disagree with bisexuals coz i think that they r greedy and they carry diseases.but if u still like him,tlk 2 him and discuss the matter.but he should never hurt u over a boy.its totaly wrong.i hope that my advice really helps u but ur not the only 1 that has been effected by this.ur NOT on ur own TRUST ME!
2007-03-21 07:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by xxashtonxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never happened to me and heres hoping it never will. I can only imagine you're feeling embarassed and angry by this fella and i wouldn't blame you for not wanting to talk to him ever again. But in the long run i suppose, at least he was honest with you and if thats what he is then theres not much anyone can do about it.
2007-03-21 07:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by kit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me.
Its hard and takes a while to get over. The best way is to try and not think about it too much, take a while to get a new man you need time to heal, lean on your friends as much as possible, have girls night out.
Remember have fun.
How did you find out? I was told by his bf.
2007-03-21 07:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋