this guy john at my church is 17 and yeah..he's super cute and we talk alot and we also have talked about sexual things..it's been great but i want to have something with him..how can i if the age is a problem?
well idk..but i see him tonight..what should i do..it's perfect but can he make the commeniment?
2007-03-21 00:19:06 · 13 answers · asked by *Chelsea* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age doesn't need to be the problem...the most important thing is maturity when it comes to relationships....take things bit slowly rather than rushing..
2007-03-21 00:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, if you are a church going girl, do you really wanna talk about sex with him? Do you think that you would end up getting sexual with him? That doesn't seem consistant with your faith? or am I understanding this wrong.
I work with college students. Those who start having sex at 15 often have issues that I see in college students a few years down the road.
I'd say that at 15/17 two years is big. He'll be off to college soon, and you'll still be in H.S.
I understand that he's probably totally eye candy to you, but get over it.
2007-03-21 00:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a problem hun..but at 15 u should not get involved with him physically.And about him making any committment..u can not be sure right now.Get to know him better by being friends.As he is 17,he might have sum girl that he likes.Know if he respects u enough or not.Know if he likes u too the way u do.GO out with him if that what u guys want,but like i said, no sexual relationship should be there between u two now.good luck:)
2007-03-21 00:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment? You are reaching for a lot here. If you have not gone out on a date, or spent any time with him and you are already talking about sexual things, you are going to get hurt. If you are looking for a relationship, I would keep looking because you are not going to get it from him. I would try being friends first, and see if there is some connection other than sex.
2007-03-21 00:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the simple breakdown: Don't sleep with him until you've been going out steady for at least a month. Yeah "going out steady" sounds old fashioned, but you're 15 years old, right? I'm sure you want the first time to be with a special guy... and if John is a decent fella, he'll wait.
2007-03-21 00:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chase him around the church, and catch him by the organ.... All joking aside, 15 is too young for having sex. Kids these days want to rush into something they no nothing about. Just become good friends, and try to figure out his personality. Just because he goes to church, doesn't mean he is a solid and upstanding citizen. Plenty of hyprocrates around, even in church...
2007-03-21 00:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you are obiviously a sensible, church going girl so I am going to assume that by ,'I want to have something with him', you mean you want him to be your boyfriend and that is fine as you both seem to know each other quite well and are already friends, if you are talking about sleeping with him then no, don't go ahead with it as you are far too young.
Why don't you both talk about where your relationship is going after all if you can discuss sexual things then you should be able to discuss this.
2007-03-21 00:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you shouldn't be worried about a guy making a commitment to you when you're only 15. Second of all, all boys care about at that age is getting in your pants, so you need to watch out for that, because that may be his only intention in talking to you. Thirdly, if you find that getting in your pants isn't his only intention (which isn't likely) then try going out to a movie, dinner, you know typical date stuff. Just make sure you get parental permission first!!!
2007-03-21 00:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by lipgloss_black85@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 2 years isn't so bad. But im around your age and i personally wouldn't like to make a comitment just yet or get too serious with any boy. but everyones different and have their own perspective about things. just be careful ok, don't go too far with him unless you both totally trust eachother and there is something special there. anyway hope that helped =)
2007-03-21 00:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 05:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by corbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋