What happens if the reason that he fell out of love with you because you weren't yourself or the person he did fall in love with in the first place. I wasn't myself for the last year (we were living together this year) of a 3 year relationship because of me being scared of losing him. I did extreme measures to make him happy, like being available to him all the time, letting him do what he wants avoiding any serious conflict (basicly losing my independence and identity). The reason why i did this was because he had committment issues in the past with me which made me think that if did everything to make him happy i won't lose him, but then he dumps me teliing me that he wasn't happy in the last couple of months and doesn't feel the same way by doesn't know why. I still love him and I regret in what I have done (in my case in losing myself first and then second, losing him)
2007-03-21 00:19:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's been 3 months ever since we broke up, i have not made any contact with him, I have boosted my self esteem and independence, i travelled arond europe I moved in with my best girlfriend, started a new job, and i started dating, i feel happy about myself, but i still love him, these feelings haven't changed. Within these three months I have realised that I don't NEED him in my life to be happy, so I have become more independant and more confident, but I still desire him, I want him, is that so wrong.
2007-03-21 00:20:28 · update #1
why would u blame yourself completely for the breakup? the reason he left was u were too good to him, u made yourself a doormat, he lost interest. your not all to blame usually when someone leaves u its because they have met someone else. sometimes we do tend to give all, just to keep someone, and end up loosing their respect, and them.if he doesn't feel the same way about u, u are wasting your time.
2007-03-21 00:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not wrong to still love him but try to move on. Its great that you're very happy now and i hope you enjoy your life to the max. Try to have a lot of fun and next time you meet someone be yourself. Remember there are many people out there and one special one just for you. If someone loves you just because your you then that means that there really is a connection. hope that helped =)
2007-03-21 00:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He strikes quickly because of fact he's conscious it shouldn't final! He has dedication themes. He became searching for an excuse and is with ease blaming you so he won't sense undesirable, even although this is especially sparkling he became digging especially deep to locate a reason to break issues off. provide him entire freedom. No calls, no texts, not something. permit him have his freedom. I actually have a feeling in case you do this, he might come crawling back.
2016-11-27 19:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by veldkamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW girl...learn to like and love yourself..yes every choice you make in your life is your choice and the results you have to live with...NO ONE evr wants someone to let them do whatever they want and is always avalible and lives like that! WOW I can't believe this...if you are not engaged after a year then move on with any man...3 years? He doesn't want a commitment with you.....RUN!!!!! Get some therapy and read some books on how to love yourself.....good luck!
2007-03-21 00:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learned an important lesson. You absoulutely cannot change yourself for someone else... it never, never works. You will always fail in the long run.
You could try to tell him what you've written here and see if he wants to try again. But don't be surprised by what he decides.
2007-03-21 00:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made yourself this guy's doormat, and you got walked all over. Congrats on breaking the cycle of grovelling, but just remember the lesson you learned when you're in your next relationship.
2007-03-21 00:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, I THINK YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM. BUT YOU ARE GOING ON AND THAT IS A GOOD THING. KEEP DO WHAT YOU ARE DOING ENJOYING YOUR LIFE. IF HE WANTED TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE THAT IS NO GOOD. IN THE LONG RUN IT IS BETTER THAT HE DID LEAVE YOU. YOU DOES NOT SOUND LIKE A NICE MAN.
2007-03-21 00:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I can't read all that but the fact is that you were being yourself. Who are you trying to kid? People are never 'not themselves'.
2007-03-21 00:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You need to move on.Chalk it up to experience
2007-03-21 00:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Angelbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dumped you so dont push yourself with him maybe he have other reason for just dumping you and he just using that as his reason just to lessen his guilt by himself sothat you will think thats its your fault.
2007-03-21 00:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by cheezzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋