we have been together for 4 and half yrs and recently got engaged. we have a fantastic sex life, but we hardly ever kiss. i have asked the reason why to him and he says that he is not really into kissing and "making love" romantically. we have crazy, wild sex and always have had throughout our relationship. for some time now i have been thinking that there is something wrong with me, like do i have bad breath, am i a bad kisser or does he just not think of me in a romantic way. but a few weeks ago he said that the reason that he doesnt like kissing me is that it feels weird as i have had collagen in my lips and that he can feel that it is not natural. it bothers me a little bit as i love kissing and find it turns me on during sex. i also think that kissing is a very intimate thing that couples in love. i have never had problem like this in any of my other previous relationships. what do you think??
2007-03-20 23:37:13 · 11 answers · asked by pom pom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think he's being honest and the collegin grosses him out. Stop doing it and accept yourself the way you are, lips and all.
2007-03-21 06:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I love kissing during sex. It is very sentual. I think y'all just need to sit down and talk about it and let him know sex is about making both people happy. If he doesn't want to make out the whole time, you have to respect that but to make you happy he needs to give a little as well. If y'all are trurly in love he should be able to tell you the real reason behind this. Even if it has something to do with an ex. At the same time, you should be able to accect it. If you can just let him know you don't care the reason you just need to know the truth. I say this because the collagen thing doesn't seem logical. If anything, a man would be turned on by sexy plump lips.
Good luck sweetie!
2007-03-21 06:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by LRS1085 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the position, and the mood of things, we don't ALWAYS kiss during sex...
Your fiance seems abit umm.. odd... 'not really into kissing and 'making love' romantically'.. i guess romance isn't for everyone, but not to kiss, there must be something wrong with HIM not YOU!!
Tell him how you feel, all this crazy, wild sex is great, but sometimes a bit a romantic, slow, missionary, with long kisses can just be as nice..
I don't think there is anything wrong with you.. just try and talk to him about how you feel..
2007-03-21 06:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your bf is suffering from some form of mental illness, no joke. As you said your sex is wild and heavy. He maybe using sex as a means of expressing himself or venting frustration. He doesn't kiss you cuz it's to intimate and he is looking for power and control. Sex releases dopamine in the brain and he might be addicted. Check out manic depressants on webmd and c if he falls into the category..
2007-03-21 06:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by ski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't kiss all the time during sex but there were alot of times we did so yes it seems odd that he's funny about it. I guess you need to talk about it some more and be totally open and honest with each other otherwise you will begin to not want any type of sex with him at all.
2007-03-21 08:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that it has been that way from the begining,
did you have the lip collagen when you met?
It just sounds too weird to me, I find kissing very intimate and it just sounds like he wants the kinky sex.
It should bother you.. Prostitutes don't kiss their clients, and it sounds to me that he has confused you with someone else
2007-03-21 06:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys might need counseling, if it worries you. Otherwise, keep on having wild sex. I remember also being with this one partner for half a year. We had crazy sex, but we hardly kissed at all.
2007-03-21 06:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just count your lucky starts you're still having sex at all. I think it is normal to not kiss during sex.
2007-03-21 08:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love kissing and fortunatly so does my man. what about your lips on other places? if you get what i mean? perhaps you could discuss your desire to make out more and he could offer something he'd like to do more too? my partner loves it when i wear a clear lip gloss so maybe something like that to soften them? good luck!
2007-03-21 06:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot get past that it sounds a bit immature. However so does treating men like paper towels.
2007-03-21 06:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋