is it true that it mustnt be true love if you have to question it?
I saw something in my sisters room about her fiance, she had written down questions like " Do i really love him?" "Do i want him in my life forever?" and all sorts of questions like this. So what do you think? does she really love him or is she settling for him?
2007-03-20 23:24:53 · 8 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The wedding is in August this year. My bf was chatting to my sisters fiance and her fiance admitted that when he first met my sister, it was her friend he was interested in. He also has said that he used to use girls a lot.
The main worry for me is that the marriage wont last as he proposed to her when he was really drunk and is taking no interest in the wedding at all!
2007-03-20 23:32:32 · update #1
She has probably got wedding jitters. Be there for her if she needs to talk about it, but don't judge or tell her what to do. Whatever she does now affects her fiance as well.
2007-03-20 23:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cat burgler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she really loves him. As the day comes closer to making that commitment, a lot of people get scared. These are probably just questions she wants to ask herself just to make sure she is making the right decision.
Think about it, it's better she ask herself these before getting married than being in a marriage and having to get divorced.
My friend is engaged and says she is in no rush to get married at all. And that's she's scared because she has to spend the rest of her life with her fiance. That is when you should be worried they don't love someone.
2007-03-20 23:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by LRS1085 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to have doubts, when your marriage is approaching, and better think it over now then later. you mustn't marry someone just because you love him, she is thinking it over, whether he is or isn't the partner for her, and most of this problem has to be treated separately from love. passionate love goes away in a few years, but the respect for each other, the ability to help each other remains, and this is important in marriage. If your sister is thinking about these things, it doesn't mean she doesn't love him enough. there is no perfect man, she could be afraid of marrying someone, who is not the best for her, but these things you can't know for sure, even if you are deeply in love, you have doubts, because you see the guys mistakes, and you are wondering if you can deal with that for your entire life. my advise to you is to stay still, and see what develops, and definitely don't talk to your sister, if you see, that this hesitation continues for a long time, or she asks for your advise, than approach her, but let her decide what she wants. if your sister is a rational person, she needs to think things over, let her do that. it is a big decision, and no big decision is easy, you have to think about it. there is no perfect relationship, you can only choose the best one, she is thinking whether this is the best one.
2007-03-20 23:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how soon the wedding is? Maybe she's just making sure that she is doing the right thing. Why don't you ask her how she's feeling instead of snooping around her room? She might appreciate the chat
2007-03-20 23:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by gemma_florida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the past I would have said that you do have to question whether you love someone. I was in a relationship like that, but since then I have left him and met someone else. I now know true love and don't have to question it; I love him and that is all there is to it.
2007-03-20 23:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by kchick8080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why it has to be true love? true respect is more important and ability to live together politely and happily. Most of the couples are not in love but they manage to be happy most of the time.
2007-03-20 23:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Suchness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is still making up her mind
such notice are to keep her remind of that problem
she is trying to give utmost time value to these questions
by the way why are you so keen to know? i am sorry for being rude but this is important to know
2007-03-20 23:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you chat with her and find out..
2007-03-20 23:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋