i have a long distance gf and used to help her financially though always when we spoke or met up it was always about money and she would just go on spending sprees i havnt helped her much at all the last 9 months cos of a change in circumstances now she dumping me for another guy should i try to get her back i am in love with her deeply and very angry at the mo 10 days ago she was pushing me for a 3K final deposit on the house which she planned to buy in her name i wouldthen move over and get on the deeds i couldnt make it now this happens help!!!
2007-03-20 22:59:56 · 30 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry to be blunt but are thick stupid to be even CONSIDERING staying with her?? Shes a gold digger - shes using you for your money - and when you cant give her anymore she dumps you.
Youre an easy target for women like her you need to accept the fact that if she loved you - she'd be with you - but she isnt - shes found someone that is probably richer than you - who she intends to milk dry - just like she did with you.
As for buying ahouse in her name - really - you cant seriously have thought about letting her put it in her name??
Trust me - you're WAY better off out of this one - plenty more girls out there and can I suggest - you get them to date you for you and not your wallet - theres a saying - " a fool and his money are easily parted" - and no offence hun - but that so sums you up.
xx
2007-03-21 00:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro you can't love these hoes and I'm not talking about ladies !! A lady will work for her money and she will set goals with you , a hoe will drain your pockets than move on to another guy like what just happened to you ! The best bet is to Facebook some girls in your area, start talking to beautiful girls you run into and basically upgrade which wouldn't be hard at this point! Another thing if she dumped you over money than what does that say about her morals like she was probably sucking every dudes dick who bought her drinks !! Seriously bro if you would have bought a house in her name that would have been you shooting your own wallet!! Haha at least you didn't buy you a nice crib with your money and let a girl with her own job come to you!!
2015-11-18 09:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Scotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that you feeling bad but she's really not worth your unhappiness. Seems like she's been using you for money. Good thing really that you couldn't come up with the 3k as I don't think that you going the deeds would have happened. Pity this new bloke and if he's got any sense at all, he won't be handing over any money.
Easier said than done, but try and move on and cut all contact with this person - people like her give women a bad name.
2007-03-20 23:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sugarlump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why exactly do you want to get back together with her?? You obviously recognize that she was *blatantly* only with you for the money... Was the sex extraordinarily mind-blowing??? I think that you should be thankful that she cut you loose and find a better woman.
If you really want to get back with her, *all* you have to do is deposit a huge check into her account and buy her that house... But please stop and think really hard before you do b/c once you take that step, she'll be bleeding you for cash again until you can't support her anymore and then she'll dump you. Again.
I'm sorry if I'm being a bit harsh, but I think you have to face the facts.
2007-03-20 23:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nine months is not a big deal. You are not married. You haven't lived together for a long time and had children. It is a long-distance relationship. Saw lots of people get into those while living in the Rockies. People pass through life and are trying to find themselves in those situations. They enjoy the journey and are not looking to settle. Move on.
2007-03-20 23:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
John, i believe you are suffering but you have to face truth. She is not worthy of your love nor your help. You saw what happened when you stopped helping her with money. She turned to someone else. You are loosing your time and your heart for nothing.
Raise your head and look up around you. If you cry because you haven't' seen the sun, your tears won't let you see the stars (Tagore said). Now, your sun is very far, what is good for you: away from the eyes, away from the heart. What about looking to another star?
2007-03-20 23:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wanted you for what she could get from you. Quit giving her money. Money does not buy love. Be glad she dumped you now before she did some real damages to you finances. If she loved you, she would have wanted both of your names on that house. The real estate agent could have faxed a copy of the contract, and you could have given someone your power of attorney to sign at the act of sale for you. I know, because I was a real estate agent.
2007-03-20 23:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl used you. She took all you offered and from what i have read she didn't give you anything back. You seem to be a nice guy, you helped her the best you could and you don't deserve to be treated like a walking bank. Forget about her and find someone who loves you back for who you are and not what you can spend on them. I know it hurts to be betrayed but you have had a lucky escape from a golddigger!
2007-03-20 23:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by VV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, she has been using you. Thats obvious especially as your financial situation changed and she no longer needs you. Let her go and use somebody else for a change. With any luck she may get her comeuppance. You deserve someone much better. Long distance relatioships often dont work anyway, for obvious reasons. Good luck
2007-03-20 23:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been using you for money since day one, now she has dumped you for a new sugar-daddy, and you want advice on how to get her back??? Do you have the word "sucker" tattooed on your forehead? Consider yourself lucky that you escaped before complete financial ruin set in, and move on already!
2007-03-20 23:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋