we just decided last week that we are going to get married. i have told all my family and friends and am already looking at venues and dresses etc!! however he has only told his mum and his son, i asked him about this and he said that i was getting too overexcited and that men are different to women and that he will do it in his own time. is this true? all i can think of is the wedding and am so excited that i want to tell the world! he says that it will be properly official when we have the engagement rings(which we are flying to new york to get very soon) and that then we can have an engagement party and tell everybody. it has taken a while for him to come around to the idea of marriage as he had a bad experience before, should i just give him time to tell his friends and family or should i be worried that he is unsure of going thru with it? i luv him so much i want to shout it to the world that i am gonna finally be his wife!
2007-03-20 22:48:26 · 10 answers · asked by pom pom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let me tell you from experience. Men are different this way. They will maybe tell their best friend when they are getting ready to propose. They won't tell anyone else unless it comes up in conversation. If I were you I would back off, if he has had a bad experience before then let him get used to the idea. If you start nagging him now then he will definately rethink his decision to marry you. If he wants to wait until a party is thrown to announce then respect his wishes. You will both be better off if you do. You can still continue to look for venues and dresses, etc. But don't cram them down his throat. Keep a wedding folder and keep all of your information neatly inside and show him when it's appropriate.
2007-03-21 01:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 08:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by gureczny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right. You're too excited about it. Men are like that- they take things in stride.
If I were you, I will just relax. He might be turned off by your (hyper-) reaction. So the engagement rings have not been given yet. Officially, you're not engaged yet. But of course, he's a gentleman I suppose.
You confess that you love him very much. Does he love you that intensely as well? I hope the answer is positive.
Just remember that both of you are entering a new chapter of your lives. So take your time. I wish you luck!
2007-03-20 23:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has had a previous bad experience, just give him space and time. Like he said when you get the rings and have the engagement party he will tell everybody. I think perhaps he is being very careful, as in, once bitten, twice shy.
2007-03-20 22:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't think u should be worried, he's told the most important people in his life,and he's right about men being different than women just let him do it in his own time..
but u shouldn't be going on about it give him space to make him comfortable so he can tell his friends and family with out it being a result of u pressuring him..
just be understanding,it's a life chanding thing that might take time to sink in for him.
and u shouldn't be so cought up in the wedding that u forget about him and his needs take it easy and breathe a little and don't focus on every little detail with him..
good luck
2007-03-20 22:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by the_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes maybe he is a little leery.This happens especially to men who have already been married once.He's right though men don't get near as excited and as he has been married before he's probably not in a big rush.Give him time.He will come around.
2007-03-20 22:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't get as excited about the planning but there's no excuse for him to not have told his mum and son by now that he's getting married.
2007-03-20 23:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's right. You aren't officially engaged until you have a ring and a wedding date set.
2007-03-21 01:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm talk is cheap....believe it when the ring is on your finger, or if you want to see how serious he is....tell him YOU will have an announcement put in the local paper announcing your engagement.
2007-03-20 22:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants it to be a surprise..
2007-03-20 22:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by heartbeats_tin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋