met this guy around 9 months ago. We gelled and clicked right from the start we were like best friends as well as lovers while seeing each other. But i discovered over time that this guy was a classic commitment phobic. Even when he spoke about his ex's saying that they were all too needy etc but I actually think it was him with the problem, as he is very immature and erratic for his age 28!!. during the space of time we were together he wasn't sure if he wanted any proper commitments right now, so we decided to leave it at that & just be friends. I am movin on as we are on 2 different levels right? I don't ever call him! He still calls me after 2 months. He called me a few days ago telling me that he does miss me & my company,someone to liase & laugh with, but still isn't saying anything about a proper relationship! I'm sorry but he doesn't know what he wants right now with me & alot of other things in his life. This guy has hurt and led me on long enough. I need to look afta no1!
2007-03-20 22:46:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said that he still wants to be friends at least!! but i don't know if I can be his friends after he has hurt me so much and he asks why I am so bitter!! do I need to stop contact to move on?? Please no rude answers, thank you!
2007-03-20 22:49:11 · update #1
He said that he still wants to be friends at least!! but i don't know if I can be his friends after he has hurt me so much and he asks why I am so bitter!! do I need to stop contact to move on?? Please no rude answers, thank you!
2007-03-20 22:49:47 · update #2
Sorry about all that, it sucks...but just tell him to leave you the hell alone.
2007-03-20 22:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you handle being just his friend? If you need to look after number one, then i would suggest you move on and move on completely. More than likely you will end up as a FWB and unless you consider that taking care of number one, best just to have no contact with each other whatsoever.
2007-03-21 06:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by HopeURLuvinLife2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat do u want ask urself, r u stiilll looking or expecting something frm him, some guys r commitment phobic, u know like runaway grooms, just let it flow like thia and io really dont think u can do much bout it cuz it seems u do want him to commit, so just try to move on if he comes bak before u have moved so far, u can consider untilll then just let it flow
2007-03-21 06:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you answered this for yourself when you said, "I need to look afta no1!"
2007-03-21 05:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is perfect you lable him immature but you being mature not able to decide what to do to him
you too seems double minded
you know him you are suppose to be the best judge
have enough maturity to build up your confidence and decide
2007-03-21 05:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do. you can still keep him as a friend but dont hope for anything more, it sounds like it wouldn't work, i hope things work out fine!
2007-03-21 05:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...um...What's your question? I think you just went on a rant and answered your own question at the end of it.
2007-03-21 05:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't answer his call try to ignore him
2007-03-21 06:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by yurrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋