has any1 on here been with a guy for 1 year and they still havent told you they love you? and dont show their feelings?
2007-03-20 22:36:04 · 19 answers · asked by parent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he had just come out a 2yr relationship wen i met him, and he said he didnt wana rush in2 things, plus i have a 4yr old child and he doesnt
2007-03-20 22:45:38 · update #1
One year? I've been with 2 guys that long and we had all said I love you by then.
Usually it takes me about 6 months to say anything, maybe the person you're with just takes longer.
2007-03-20 22:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But one of my best friends is in such a relationship. He's been seeing hsi gf for over a year now and she takes great drunken delight in tellin me how pis.sed off she is at the fact he hasn't said "I Love You" yet, even though she's said it to him within a few months.
Now knowin my friend very well, I know that he does love her and has for a while but just can't say it to her and here's why.
My friend is an extremely rigid person, he is very tight with money, is incredibly open about his opinions on even the most prickly of subjects and has no problem rubbing people the wrong way to express his (sometimes very unpopular) principles.
In summary my friend never says anything to anyone that he doesn't completely believe or mean and he never commits himself to something unless he's willign to go the distance with it, u see my friend believes that people say "I Luv U" far too easily nowadays as a matter formality after being together for so long even though they don't actually mean or don't realise that it's not true. In his mind "I Love U" is a gigantic emotional step that should not be taken lightly. He believes if u love someone and i mean really love someone it's to last.
Ppl who say "I LOVE YOU" and then split up the next week don't know the meanin of the word (his words) so when he says it, it'll be when he truely feels it and believes that his future lies firmly with this girl because that's what these words mean to him.
2007-03-21 06:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. It was a funny relationship - it should not have lasted as long as it did as we were so different and really didn't have much in common. About 9 months into the relationship, we were reaching a crisis point - I was finishing my university course and going back home (about an hour away by car...and he didn't drive). He refused to talk about it, to me or his mates, which left me feeling frustrated and confused. Then, one night, he was playing a gig a couple of weeks before I was due to head home and afterwards, was talking to a couple of girls who worked in the same store we did. I don't normally get jealous or anything, but I didn't like them as they weren't nice people at all and they were extremely rude to me when I went up to talk to him. Well, he spent the entire night talking with them and it really upset me. When we got back to his, we had a huge talk and I said I loved him (which I thought I did because we'd been together that long - yes, stupid I know. I'm a lot wiser these days!). He said he was too scared to fall in love etc etc. Anyway, things were a bit funny for a few days and then went back to normal. When I went back home, however, the cracks that were there before really began to show. He hated coming over to mine (at the time I lived on an old farm in the middle of nowhere) and we seemed to work alternate shift patterns, which meant that we didn't see each other for weeks at a time. He made little effort to keep in contact and everything. Wasn't impressed lol. Eventually, after a few more months, we split up, which was the right decision and I'm so much happier now! And what do you know? He's been seeing one of the girls he was talking to that night ever since we broke up lol. :-P
2007-03-21 05:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cat burgler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i haven't been through this situation but it's really weird if you've been together for a year and he still doesn't show any feelings. can it be because he doesn't have any feelings for you? i'm not sure. what do you think from how he acts towards you? does it seem like he likes you? some guys just don't like showing their feelings and keep them bottled up inside. and "i love you" is a really powerful thing to say with a very deep meaning. sometimes 1 year isn't even enough to truly love a person. what's more important is: do YOU like him? if you do, then maybe you should tell him gently that you are confused about how he feels about you. if you don't like him as much as you thought or there just isn't any love in the relationship, i think it's better to break it off. there's no point in staying in a relationship if there's no love and you don't feel anything for your partner.
2007-03-21 05:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by heartiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have been with my guy for 9 months now had he still hasn't said those three little words but neither have I.
Not because we don't care, we've both been really hurt in the past and keep the barrier up as don't want it to happen again.
We actually spoke about this on Monday evening and he said he finds it difficult to express his feelings in words but he does really care about me a lot and I know that he does as when we are together he is always cuddling me, hugging me and giving me little loving kisses.
The fact that we sat down and talked about it has made things much better between us, so try having a little chat with him about it.
It doesn't mean that he doesn't necessarily care about you, men in general don't show their feelings.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 06:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit unusual but if he's been dating you for a year then he must have some feelings for you. Try asking him how he thinks the relationship is going and if he's happy with you. Do you tell him that you love him? If not he might think you don't and just be protecting himself. If you do next time you say it watch his reaction, it;s all in the eyes and body language!
2007-03-21 05:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Technically we were "f*** buddies" I guess because there should be no other explanation. At the time it began we were both just weeks out of significant living-together relationships.
I could have told him just as easy as he could have told me so I guess we're even. It's over now, I am better than that, I want to be loved and told of this love and guys are falling all over themselves to talk to me and I bet they are with you too.
Ask him about it if you really want to know, but he probably doesn't love you if he hasn't said it. You deserve love, go find it now!
2007-03-21 05:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by kgconcerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get out of the relationship now. It is going no-where. The longer you stay the worse it will hurt at the end.
Find someone who can show, and express their love to you. You deserve better.
2007-03-21 05:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men are different, you would be better talking to him and find out if he is ok and still happy in the relationship.
I am one of the lucky ones, my man tells me he loves me all the time, but if ever theres a time when he doesnt, we always talk about it and figure out how to fix any problems.
So, speak to your man, and see how he feels.
2007-03-21 06:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds a bit odd...... most guys, even the emotionally challenged ones, should have told u that they love u by now !!! i think u need to have a talk to him about how he feels about this relationship, and if u are still not happy, then don't waste your time on someone who can't give u what u need. good luck.
2007-03-21 05:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋