My mom is a wreck. Her mom, my grandma, is sick with cancer. She cant move, talk, do anything physical. She's on a feeding tube, and on a breathing machine. They cancer is wrapped around her heart, lungs, and throat. her muscles are pretty much mush and she’s thin as a rail, (she’s always been plump, so that’s scary) she's got NO white blood cells, and no immune system. She's in and out of consciousness, and cant be touched because she’s so susceptible to illness. She’s got phenomena and four infections. The doctors say threes a 1% chance she'll make it. I just don’t know how to comfort my mom. I know we're all expecting the worst, but praying for the best, but that’s not enough. What should I say or do after my grandmother’s death? How do you comfort a daughter who has lost her mother?
Any suggestions?
I just cant bare the thought of not knowing what to say or do when she dies...
My mom is so important to me, i just want to help her through this, but I don’t know how.
What to do?
2007-03-20 22:33:46 · 3 answers · asked by thats_hot_097 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just have to start my answer by saying to you... What a wonderful daughter you are. Your mother is very blessed to have you. I have other input but I can tell you this for certain. Just being there is going to be the biggest contribution you can make to aid you mother during the grief she is going to experience... the grief she has to go through to make this transition.
There is always the, "she is with God" scenario if she has these beliefs. It doesn't sound to me as if you want to put the burden of comforting your mother into anyone else's hands. Not even God's. So what can you say to your mom? Where will you look for these words? How can you be sure, after putting so much thought into it, that she will find comfort in what you have to say?
I have the answer for you. Please, listen. You will find the words in your own heart. It may scare you to depend on yourself to come up with this, that is OK. The truth is, it is not going to be the words that comfort your mother... it is your love that will see her through this tragedy. It will be the touch of your hand that leads her back from her despair. It will be your soft smile and sparkling eyes that penetrate and dissapate her suffering.
Trust yourself. You are woman. You are part of a long legacy of nurturing those you love. You don't have the words right now, I know. But, you do have something that is so much more... You have your instincts.Your intuitions. They will not let you down. Remember this and trust it to be true ... Love never fails.
2007-03-20 23:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by terterryterter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be just tell her,look mom I know this is hard on you and it's hard on me too,but do you want her suffering like this? If god chooses to take her then that is his plan. Tell her you feel grandma is suffering and I don't like seeing her suffer anymore than you do. Just think about all the good memories she gave you and her family. Tell her you will pray with her. Then pray together while at her beside. Just be there for your mom and let her know how this is affecting you too.
I watched my dad die from cancer,so I feel for you.
It is never easy for anyone.
May god bless you and yours.
2007-03-21 05:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ღ♥Jeanene♥ღ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her.
2007-03-21 06:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋