Is it ok for the Mother of the Groom to wear a black dress? She is not ashamed or anything, but she is kind of bigger and black looks better, plus she would wear it again, and she needs a darker color cause she has a few sores that might seep out and can be seen through a lighter dress.
Im just a traditionalist though, but have been told that it is not that uncommon to wear black to a wedding.
I dont know what to do
2007-03-20 22:29:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My MIL wore black to my BIL's wedding, as did a lot of other women that went to the wedding, probably because it was a late November wedding and black is a popular color anyway. Don't get me wrong - she looked really nice and she was happy about the wedding. It's just that her dress was black.
However, my husband didn't like how it looked (he thought it looked too much like a funeral), so when she was dress shopping for our wedding, I asked if she would please not get a black dress. I asked my mother the same thing, and they ended up getting champagne / beige and sage green dresses.
2007-03-21 01:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride says ok, then go right ahead. Its not that common for the mothers to wear black, but black at a wedding is no longer taboo. And like you said, everyone looks good in it. If the bride says she prefers another color, how about Navy blue or a deep wine color? Those can be just as slimming as black but will not be as "untraditional" as black would be and they would still be dark so that if there is any seeping it would still not be noticable.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 04:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that she needs to wear a darker color, but black is the tradiational color of mourning. You don't want people to think she's against the marriage (the younger people at the wedding may not think twice about it but the older and more traditional people will more than likely look at it this way). Try a midnight blue or a nice burgundy. Black isn't the ONLY dark color!
2007-03-21 04:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the mother of the groom is not ashamed, the thought of her wearing black might cause others to wonder about her intentions. Black is the color of mourning. It's your wedding, if you are ok with it, then let it go. Personally, maybe deep navy blue, or forrest green, or other rich dark color might be better.
2007-03-21 03:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the bride and groom are happy with it...
My witch of a MIL2B said she wanted to wear black... considering we are getting married in bloody jamaica, in the middle of the day.. i don't think so...
personally i don't want any people esp, someone in the bridal party wearing black to my beach wedding..
if it was in the UK and the weather wasn't great i wouldn't mind so much..
I think there are other flattering dark colours she could wear opposed to just black!! The attention should be about what the bride is wearing, and how beautiful she looks.. not 'I can't believe X came to her own son's wedding dressed in black!'
that's my personal view though... just ask the bride and broom.. as long as they are happy, thats all thats matters..!
2007-03-21 00:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Black is an elegant color for several occasions. BUT for a wedding? If anyone else wore black, not a problem...No. But the mother of the groom? Everyone there at the wedding will know you.....and some will know your mother-in-law to be as well....So, no one should really care what color she has on. YOU are the Bride......Its YOUR day. Who really cares what she wears? You'll be the one everyone is there to see and congratulate.....and you'll be the one they look at. Let her wear whatever she wants. Its a reflection on her as to how she looks...NOT a reflection on you at all.
2007-03-20 23:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Your Asking Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about how she feels, then allow her to wear the black dress. She can always highlight her gown by other things (jewelry, hair pins, etc..) If you want to continue traditional, you can mention to her that is some cultures they expect the mother of the groom to wear blue in honor of her son and suggest a navy or midnight blue color.
Either way, its your decision and if you feel that you will be okay with it, then let her know.
2007-03-21 09:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in agreement with a dark navy or a very dark forest green. From what I've heard, only in Italy is black an OK color for a wedding. Although, my little cousin got married a few months ago and she had a lot of black incorporated in her wedding.
2007-03-20 23:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine I went to a wedding and they had the wedding in the morning but the reception at night and a lot of women wore black dresses ... including me. I think in morden days it is alright to wear black. I think you should let her
If you really dont want her to when she could wear a drak blue color?
Good Luck
2007-03-21 03:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by *Sweetie* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEN IF SHE HAS HEALTH ISSUES (SORES), SHE SHOULD WEAR THE DARKER COLORS AND PERHAPS A LONG SLEEVED DRESS. BLACK IS NOT UNCOMMON AS YOU PUT IT IN THESE MODERN TIMES.
IF YOU DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH THAT COLOR ON YOUR WEDDING DAY, THEN THE BEST THING FOR YOU IS TO INFORM HER. I AM POSITIVELY CERTAIN THAT SHE WILL NOT MIND. BUT YOU NEED TO GIVE HER ALTERNATIVES FOR A COLOR LIKE NAVY, PLUM, GRAY, DARKER MAROON AND ENSURE THAT THE FABRIC OF THE DRESS IS THICKER OR HAS SOME LIGHT LINING.
I HAD A CLIENT WHO HAD DEFORMED ARMS AND SHE GOT HER TAILOR TO PUT IN LINING INTO A CHAMPAGNE COLORED JACKET, AS MOST SPECIAL OCCASION JACKETS ARE UNLINED, UNLESS ONE BUYS A FANCY SUIT.
2007-03-23 04:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mei Lin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋