my 4 months old daughther does not want me ever when i talk to her, she perfer my mother in-law what should I do as she look after her during the day.
2007-03-20 21:58:28 · 7 answers · asked by Chan S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My dear this is not true. She does want you. Your her mother. If she prefers your mother in law over you its maybe because she sees her most of the day and she loves her but I'm sure she wants you too. As the other ladies here have suggested try to spend quality time with her like on weekends and in the evenings. I put my baby to sleep a little later than normal so that she can spens some time with me at night. And its working for us. I too feel the same way many times because my baby stays vey nice and calm with me until her father comes in the scene. As soon as she sees him she doesn't want to stay with me and go to him. many babies have peferences but that in no way means she doesn't want you. I had read somewhere that you can try to imitate what the other person is doing. Like for example do somethings you mother in law does with her. Maybe she'll feel nice with that.
2007-03-21 01:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shanu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only four months old - she isn't capable of not liking you yet. She doesn't understand much beyond sleep, eat and poo. She will learn to understand love but not yet so don't panic. There's so much time for her to understand that you are mum and you love her, even if your mother in law is caring for her. She learnt your voice from inside the womb - it is this voice she responds to, that response may seem to you as negative but she probably responds more to you than anyone else at the moment. Reading to her at bedtime may help.
2007-03-21 01:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound awful, but I put mine in daycare 2 days per week when she was 10 months old.
My baby was taking a much stronger interest in my mother in law than she was me. That about killed me. (this started when she was older though.....6 or 7 months). So from the time I got home from work, I was completely focused on my baby. I held her, played with her (again, she was a bit older) and spent the whole evening with her. I had her in the kitchen when I was cooking dinner, she was in her high chair while we ate, and I had her with me on the couch when I was watching TV.........it really helped.
She is now 11 months and I am her world.......and I work Monday through Friday 7:30 to 4. 3 days in daycare evened things out quite a bit. she has 3 days with grandma, 2 days in baby school (learning center daycare) and 2 days with me. Plus I get her every evening.......
I know daycare is a harsh and not always affordable option, but it is really helping my almost one year old with being around other people. And it has REALLY helped our relationship. When I come from work (whether getting her from grandma's or daycare ) she crawls as fast as she can to me. She wraps those little arms around me and I could just melt.
Just keep working on it. Spend as much time as you can with her in the evening. Cuddle and kiss her. Play and laugh with her. Read her stories, extra cuddling before you put her to bed. When she gets older, wake her up before you go to work so you are the first person she sees every morning.
Good luck.....
2007-03-20 23:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find out what your daughter like about your mother in law. Is it the way she dotes her? The way she showers her with love?
To start off, it is a good practice to always sleep with your child at night after reading her a light story. This sort of bonding can never be replaced by anyone using any method.
2007-03-20 22:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Erm 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Gradually work at spending more quality time with her. When I was two years old, my Mom got cancer and was away for almost a year doing treatments. My grandma was the only one I spent time with so naturally when my Mom returned it freaked me out. My Mom just worked and worked at spending time with me.
If you have a career it's a little bit harder because children bond to whomever they are spending time with. Don't worry, she'll come around. Keep trying and don't give up!
2007-03-20 22:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the formula being mixed suitable? Has she been commencing good meals and probably not getting sufficient? Has she been ingesting apple juice till now the formula? there's a lot of motives....whether that is often ultimate to call the wide-unfold practitioner while you're uncertain.
2016-10-19 05:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! my 3 yr old hates me. At this point when we go pick her up, she'll run by me saying "Hi, mom" and go straight for my husband. I guess you should be lucky that she feels a strong bond with someone and one day she'll come around.
2007-03-20 22:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋