Me and this lad have been really good friends for a lot of years now (im 26 he is 24). We both really like and fancy eachother and have done for a long time.
He stayed at mine a couple of weeks ago, then stayed again twice after that. We slept together and agreed to be casual about it. He kept on asking me if I wanted anything more out of the relationship and I must admit I do cos my feelings now are really strong for him and I told him this. He then said he feels like he could really fall in love with me.
He admitted he can be selfish at times and has treated girls quite badly in the past, but said that he has known me for a while and thinks alot of me and wouldn't treat me this way.
I have txt him a few times hoping he would want to go for a drink sometime but I get nothing from him...
I tried to call him last night straight after he txt me but he didn't pick up.
Last weekend he said he would try to see me but work is really busy (he has his own building business) .
2007-03-20 21:43:08 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I said in the reply I hope he would get in touch and he replied and said ''dont worry I will get to see u''.
Shall I leave it or txt him again to ask him to call me when he is free?
2007-03-20 21:44:22 · update #1
he has got to know that u have got completely crazy about him , though he likes u but he hasn't decided that u r the one for him, but he dint want to loose u too, he has not completely fallen for u, but he has a soft corner for u, i somehow feel he is not so bad as others have written, rest trust ur instincts and all the best
2007-03-20 22:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't it amazing how things change once you give him your "P"ower? it makes you all "girly' and "mushy' inside and all your emotions go silly...and you just got played, so dont expect much he told you how he treats women already and now it appears he's gonna show you
You gave him what he was waiting for all this time and it's not quite what he expected or thought is was gonna feel like and all that, so be prepared to have some hurt feelings
IF by any chance he does come around again, calls or anything it will be to have another go at IT! and of course he will say sweet and sorrowful things and appologize to make you feel good and special and all that rot! But you have what they called "made your bed and now you have to sleep in it"
be careful with your heart and emotions and most of all your "P"ower..use your female instincts and your gut feelings with your mind and all will be fine bc they tell you the truth, not his words...
2007-03-21 04:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you chase him, the more he'll run and try to avoid you.
You really should have left well enough alone and remained "friends" until you knew his ways with women were more consistent, and less "selfish". People don't change people, they must change themselves.
Now that he's gotten what he wanted from you too, he's gotten colder. Leave him alone! Give him enough rope to hang himself with or to at least show you what he's really made of.
2007-03-21 04:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Teri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him get in touch with u ! dont text him or call him and see what he will do , he knows how u feel and that u want to see him so there is nothing much u can do now , otherwise its like pushing him and i am sure u dont want this !
stay patient ! good luck x
2007-03-21 05:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush things, see if he cares enough for you to show up, or he only wants to sleep with you occasionally. don't worry if he really wants something serious from you, he'll be there for you. as you, said, you told him you had strong feelings for him, he knows what you want from him, and sooner or later his intentions will be clear too. you sound a bit like a teenage girl, who is wondering: should i, or shouldn't i call him?
2007-03-21 08:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he used you for sex, and now he is done with you. He keeps brushing you off, ignoring your texts and phone calls. He sounds like a total jerk, and you gave him exactly what he wanted..SEX.
Next time don't have "casual sex" with your male friend. Next time you have sex, you should be dating the guy and know for sure that he has feelings for you and will call you the next day.
If I'm wrong, then please e-mail me and repremand me for being so blunt, but I doubt I am wrong, hunny. I think you got USED for sex :-( This is terrible!
Cheers
2007-03-21 04:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Daft One 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
leave it a few days and then just send a friendly text, something like 'how's work going?' Then see what he texts back with, he might honestly be very busy.
2007-03-21 04:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by aleta_uk_0 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Play it cool, sister - let him make the next move - you don't want to "smother" him or make him feel smothered.
It might be hard to do, but trust me, he'll be calling!
2007-03-21 04:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont push the river if this is meant to be then it will be stop being so anxious about it and wait for him to text/ring you
he will i am sure
2007-03-21 04:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, never ,ever give so much importance to guys otherwise they start to think as BOSS.Just wait n c wat happens next.Then u can decide accordingly.Do not give him d chance to play wid u.
2007-03-21 04:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋