well me and my boyfriend really love each other, and most of all we gat along just fine but this week im always crying cuz she had decided to transfer., i want him to stay with me, but he finds reasons to let me allow him., and am i being selfish??
2007-03-20 21:23:08 · 5 answers · asked by lunaxafa_ejm1423@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well me and my bf, love each other so much,. i dont want to let him go., but he has decided to transfer to another school, and the worst part, he doesnt have any cellphones., and my parents doesnt approve of me having a boyfriend, thats why we will have no communications if he will transfer,, i love him so much, and i know he loves me too., i want to see him every day, i want to be with him.,. i dont want him to transfer,. cuz it wont be thesame., am i being sellfish?. guys help me out here,. what shoul i do, to let him stay?? ., and i will miss him so. . oh!! gosh!!,
2007-03-21 17:05:09 · update #1
no, it's not selfishness. it's fear and insecurity that makes you act that way.
if you are still in school, i believe you are still young - young and in love. it's understandable that you feel scared of the changes that will happen and their would be effects on your relationship.
but if you really love each other, you should let each other grow. i bet the decision is hard for him also but it might be for the best. you could still keep in touch and see each other even though you have different schools, right?
don't let your life revolve on your boyfriend. it's a tough battle in the real world out there. focus on improving yourself and make love an inspiration. study harder. grow in every aspect (emotionally, spiritually, socially, mentally, etc.) and become a better person so that when you and your boyfriend are both ready to enter a deeper commitment, it would be a blissful give-and-take.
remember this "absence does to a love what air does to a flame; it extinguishes the weak and feeds the strong." just pray. trust your love. trust love.
God bless!
2007-03-20 21:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by jacquie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let a dog roam and if he comes back to you he's yours forever...i'm sure he has his reasons for transferring and i don't think that you should transfer just for him. No one will understand that parents, friends, other family. So let him go. Life will go on and if your love is that strong it will last. There are a lot of fish in the sea but not a lot of blue whales...lol don't know what that means but take it for what it is. Selfish, no. You love him and it's always hard to lose something you love, but this too shale pass.
2007-03-20 21:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by body of a buddha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If you are meant to be it will be. How far away is the other college. If it helps him let him go. Understand that he needs this. If you love him and vice versa it will work out. Don't force him to stay, because if you do he will be miserable and will start to associate that with you and break up with you and then where will you be.
2007-03-20 21:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are selfish... He may have a valid reason for the transfer
2007-03-20 21:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are you are being selfish. Find someone closer to continue to be selfish with.
2007-03-20 21:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋