Getting my girlfriend back?

Question

This is my situation...my girlfriend of 10months recently broke up with me. It has crushed me, and every little thing reminds me of her. Now she came over the other day, we were laying with eachother, holding eachother, just like old times. The thing is, all she says is how much she is gonna miss it. But everytime I try to talk to her about getting back together, all she ever says is that she is sorry. So what I dont get is, if she misses me, loves me, and is going to miss what things we used to do, why is she still refusing to get back, and why did she break up in the first place. And what should I do to maybe get her back?

Answer 1

She is confused, give her space, hopefully she will know what she wants, be warned though it might mean not getting back with you.

Answer 2

There's two ways to know if your relationship is salvageable. The first thing you need to do is pick yourself up, quit crying, and start coming to grips with the fact that you may not get her back. After you do that, stop spending so much time with her. It's only making this situation worst. Take this time off between you two as a time to reflect and see what the problem was with your relationship. But you have to break contact with her. Man up, and tell her that it's best that you no longer see or speak with her for a while. Try not to sound emotional doing it. I'm not being mean, I just know where you're coming from. Once you get yourself together personally, then start casually going out. I know this whole procedure is hard, but if your ex-girlfriend still wants you, then by this point, she'll be foaming at the mouth to try and get back with you, but you have to show some independence from her first. If she doesn't come around, then at least you're making positive steps towards a new social life without her. Make sure she didn't leave you for someone else.

Answer 3

Ouch! It would probably feel better if she didn't come over at all in the long run! Your message didn't indicate what might have happened in your relationship that caused the breakup, and it sounds like you're not sure yourself. I'd suggest that you invite her someplace for coffee (or a soda) and not your bedroom, and ask her what happened. Don't get accusatory or anything, just ask her because you really want the feedback. She might tell you the truth and she might not. Either way, give her some space and try to take really good care of yourself in the meantime. Jumping into another dating situation while your still hurting about this one isn't the best idea in the world. If your girlfriend wants you to pursue her, she'll let you know if you give her enough room to really miss you. If she's playing head games for the sake of playing games, then let her go and be grateful! Otherwise, as much as this doesn't make sense, be respectful of what she's done and wait for some answers to surface. I assure you, they will!

Answer 4

Sounds like she cares for you as a friend but has found another love interest. If it were possible to get her back she wouldn't have left in the first place. She still would be holding on. She comes back to you like old times because you're familiar and you let her without resistance. You're still comfortable but you're no longer the love of her life. Stop wasting your time.

Answer 5

Hi',' I'm sorry to know of the break up !! Try this; Let her know that you've been thinking that trying to win her back seems like it may be a loss cause !?! & that you wish that she'd work with you on the matters'.But if she still shows that she may not want to fix what broke you two up.,. Just so you wo'nt have to sit `round with your head hanging down [ASK if she feels that it's over for good; & before she says anything` tell/ask her to think about her answer.. Except whatever take whatever she says as;is !! & or ask a few questions during the convo. to try & see if it's truly over !!... It just might be !?! except that & try to move on !! If you two wo'nt take the steps you want; It might be over between you two; I'll bet you're feeling as I'm feeling as I was reading this;She just might have another love-intrest in mind !?!Be strong,deal with what might have to be !?! Most of all do'nt kiss her rear if you know what I mean !! because if she may have found someone`else., I do'nt want you to feel & look stupid trying to hold onto to something that just ca'nt or wo'nt be !?!.All while doing this` test the waters if you will.. It may be a chance to save it!?! Just do'nt try TOo hard to to save your neck or feelings over something that just can nolonger be !!?!! {Good Luck}~!! [OHSirLeosbcglobal].net <3/21/07>`'R'`r,r`r'r',->

Answer 6

Sounds like she has found someone else and isnt telling you. That's usually what happens. Happened to me recently. Look, logic wont bring her back only emotion will. That requires you to not call, not text, not email for 30 days. If she contacts you that is ok but only stay on the phone for 10 mins and make sure u sound happy without her. After 30 days you are suppose to be around them and take them on a date. She lost attraction for you, by not calling it will make you less needy and raise the attraction level.

Answer 7

Talk to her politely (That's were most males go bad) And treat her with respect and have patience. She has to make up her mind. Write either a poem or a song! Make sure it is nice! Get some flowers, maybe some candy (NO NOT CANDY, SHE WILL THINK U ARE TRYING TO GET HER FAT, get her a Teddy bear or something.) Tell her you miss her and blah blah blah!

Answer 8

Those are questions you need to ask her. I know one of my brothers ex's broke up with him because of alot of things going on in her life and she has told him time and time again she regrets ever doing it. She might have seem things going on and just needs time to think. Give her space to let her think. She will come back around if it is meant to be. Don't push her!

Answer 9

You're being used man, the sooner you realize this the better off you're going to be. I know that comes off harsh, but the simple matter is that she know's you're available to her if she feels lonely or insecure, but she doesn't want you anymore, she wants the feeling of security you give her. Confront her on it and you'll be 10x better off.

Answer 10

She sounds confusing. Well have you asked her all of those questions? Just tell her exactly how you feel and ask why she broke up with you? I really hope it works out, good luck!