i'm a black female 26 yrs.I ve a black b/friend that i ve been with for 2 yrs.I then met a white guy his 30yrs while i was having lunch.fast forward 3 months later i slept with him.it has been 9 months & i'm still seeing him & i enjoy beening with him.I love my b/friend but i don't know what to do.I'm confused & scared.My family loves my b/friend & sees him as my future husband.
I ve been having a secret affair with this guy & he knows i ve a boyfriend.After sleeping with the other guy i noticed that i don't want my b/friend to touch me & he has asked me what is wrong because he notices i avoid having sex with him.The funny this is i love having sex with other guy but i think we can't have a serious relationship because he is white. He on the other hand thinks we can.He has given 3 months to leave my b/friend or he leaves.My parents will kill me if i leave my b/friend for a white man.My b/friend has been a good man but i ve fallen for the other guy.what should i do? Serious answers
2007-03-20 20:50:19 · 5 answers · asked by good_but_naughty_gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm just scared that if i leave my b/friend for this guy society will not accept our relationship. I mean i love beening with his guy but me being black and him being white creates problems with my family. I think his family will be fine because i have met his brother and sister and they know that their brother is having an affair with me. I have met his parents but i was introduced to them as a friend (rightfully so because i'm basically cheating ).
I can not continue lying to my family and b/friend. I spent the past 3 weekends at the other guys' home and i keeping lying about my where abouts. How do you leave a good man for an other good man.
i know i made the mistake of entertaining the other guy but it's too late for all those regrets now because i'm now in love with the other man. how can i explain this to my family and my b/friend.
What do i do now that the other guy no longer wants to be the other guy.He says he wants us to be official. I want to be with him
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2007-03-20 21:02:08 · update #1
you shouldn't let anyone tell you who you can and cant date. im a white female and i love more than anything to see black and white couples.i date black men. i think it shows people who dont agree with it that you have a open mind and you are not judgemental and racist. and if they dont agree then obviously they werent your friends to begin with!!!! i say to follow who your heart takes you to. if he makes you happier, then why not? (:
2007-03-21 00:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should do what makes you happy. You have to live for you. Only you can decide who your future husband will be.
On the cautionary side...you may want to ask yourself if you really want to be with this guy or is it just the thrill of doing something that will piss off your family. If this is the case then the novelty of this romance will wear off and you may regret your decision. Or is that you are feeling the pressure from all sides and need to retreat and let off some steam. Or do you KNOW that your boyfriend is not the man you want to speand your life with? But either way its unfair to your boyfriend.
If anything you should probably take some time off from your relationship and think about what's best for all involved.
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with the amendment, I think that you should end the relationship with your boyfirend.
Plus, where do you live? And, why do you care what anyone has to say about your personal relationships?
If this guy is for real, then change lanes and head for happiness.
2007-03-21 03:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very bad lady!!!! You cant be playing around with two hearts. Remember, what goes around comes around. So in my opinion forget about the white man, coz he uses you only for sex. But you may be truly loving him. I m saying this coz he has come with you knowing that you have another boy friend. He sounds to me a playboy type. So, some day he will leave you too. So at that type you will loose both of them and your family too.
So, make up your mind and forget about the white man. But, if ever you decide to continue with the your old guy please dont tell him what you did. Then he might also will be unfaithful to you. So, if you want a happy future , just completely forget about the white guy. But, IF YOU WANT SHORT TERM EXCITEMENT AND LONG TERM PAIN AND SUFFERING CONTINUE WITH THE WHITE GUY.
HOPE YOU WILL MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE!!!!
2007-03-21 04:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, so why does the color of either even matter? the fact is you are cheating on your boyfriend of 2 years with someone else. You obviously don't have much for feelings for him anymore or you wouldn't be whoring around, so just do him a favor and end that pointless relationship already. And I guess if the other guy wants to pursue a relationship with a cheater, then fine, let him get burned too...
2007-03-21 03:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by ppodjames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if your family is so stupid and naive as to worry about the color of a mans skin , and not at how happy he makes you, then maybe you don't need to be around them and if they cant accept you and this white guy being together then maybe you should cut them off or just get away from them for a little while , you know the word love , when you look it up in the dictionary , doesn't say anything about color , so why even make that a factor in your life , we are all gods children and some are just more tanned than others. for example , i am half Guatemalan (Spanish) and half Cajun, my husband is half Korean and half Italian. we are very happy and you know what ? we have an incredibly beautiful daughter . all that exotic race in her just makes her even more gorgeous than i could have ever hoped for so if your heart tells you to be with this white guy , then do it be with whom makes you most happy not with whom you think society thinks you are supposed to be with.
BEST WISHES WITH WHATEVER DECISION YOU MAKE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-03-21 04:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by jennyleeflame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋