My boyfriend of 18 months and I had a massive fight last night.He claims I always put him last and make him feel bad about himself and I couldn't agree less.Examples:
He was sick with the flu for 3 weeks and I didn't go see him but talked to him on the phone.What else was I supposed to do?If I went over there I could have caught it too.
He was in a car accident 3 months ago and ended up with a broken arm and leg and a concussion.He got mad at me because when I got the call from the hospital at like 7 am,I was sleeping off a night of partying and didn't go to see him until 6pm that day.Did he want me to drive over there half-asleep?He claims I put him down all the time in front our friends.I may talk about hooking up with other guys in front of him but it's all said in good fun and everyone but him takes it that way.He also keeps getting mad when I flirt with my ex.My ex and I are just like that.It's harmless fun and nothing more.
He's threatening to dump me if I don't change.
2007-03-20 20:37:26 · 27 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't go and see your boyfriend when he got in a car accident? That's really messed up if you ask me....
The flu, I can understand.
Flirting with your ex, whatever as long as you don't take it further.
But not seeing your boyfriend at the hospital as soon as he got there is really messed up. You waited 11 hours to go and see him. What the hell were you doing all that time?
It seems to me that you really don't care about him that much.
2007-03-20 20:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my understanding of the term "girlfriend" yeah, I would say you have some room for improvement. If you have been together for a year and a half I would say that your relationship is serious. He may be looking for you to be more than you are... maybe you are not all that into him. At some point if you love and care for each other you lose the "me" and "him" and become an "us". I can tell you that if my wife was in a car accident I would be there as soon as I could get there, hung-over, on fire, buck-naked... I would be there. There is nothing fun about flirting with your ex, hell, most guys could not even handle you continuing to have a friendship with an ex... I hate to say it but I think you are heading for dumpsville... Good luck.
2007-03-20 20:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some you time. Remind him that he is the only one for you. Quit flirting with you ex because he probably thinks he was just seconds and you care about your ex more. Don't talk about the other guys you have been with because it probably makes him feel insecure. Don't be so selfish and realize that he just wants to be near you. Think about if he was doing these things to you. I understand the flu thing and the sleeping off a party and he should understand that also, but put yourself in his position. How would you feel if he flirted with his ex right in front of you or started talking about all the girls he has been with in front of you thinking it was just a joke.
2007-03-20 23:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had the flu, I would definetly visit and bring medication
if she was hurt, i would get some coffee and be there as fast as possible
Flirt with my x with her around, not a chance, thats complete disrespect.
Talk about other women when I'm with her, then why be with her, not a chance
If the situation were reversed would he make the same decisions? If not then...
Yea, your a bad girlfriend. Just sucks though, it's so hard for people to really change. Sounds like you dont care anyway, your calling it a threat.
2007-03-20 20:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you sound ready for a relationship---that's the way the story reads as you wrote it---you have valid reasons for your actions--he sounds like his ideas of a relationship are a bit distorted---he should give you and himself a break--so tell him that you are in need of some time and space---then take it--arguing is not what a relationship is---does it sound like a romance made in heaven??? Do you think it will get better??? You know the answers--so get going---tell him nicely that you" need a break--see ya later---good luck, and bye bye" he will pout and yell--so what?? Just move on--better luck next time.
2007-03-20 20:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to say that you are a bad girlfriend, but it sounds like you are being selfish when it comes to this relationship... Sounds like anything that comes as an inconvenience to you is not worth your sacrifice, and that you don't value his feelings for you when you disrespect him with your jokes.
I would have dump you by know, and I think when you are asking the question is because you know that, at least partly, you deserve it!
Grow up!
2007-03-20 20:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this what if the role is reverse? Do you think you can handle or endure the humiliation if he flirts with his ex or jokes about being with another beautiful girls?
I'm sorry, but he has the right reason to be mad at you!
Just think over of what I have just said!
2007-03-20 20:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by Infinite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i hate to say it but no, your not the best girlfriend ever. Maybe you should end it, but if he really does mean alot to you then try to change a bit, like be more considerate of him. And definitely stop flitring with your ex!!!! And maybe dont talk about hokking up with other guys because i think its fair enough that he doesnt like that!
2007-03-20 20:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by lozzy_x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can not you in basic terms bypass and hold close out with him and the puppies? i think of you're being slightly selfish, the puppies are something great and new in his existence and he's attempting to share that with you, yet you're ultimate interior the possibility to be waiting to share that which includes your boyfriend. After a jointly as he gets used to the actuality that he have been given the puppies and he would be back to wide-spread, geez.
2016-11-27 19:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by fearson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like maybe you aren't ready to be in such a serious relationship. If it were me, just hearing that someone I loved was in the hospital would have had me wide awake and in the car. It doesn't seem like you're a bad gf, just maybe not what he's looking for.
2007-03-20 20:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by nic_jr16 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋