respected sir,
i am an 18 year old boy confronting with deep psychological problems.I have never studied in a co-educational school and have never felt a great inclination for girls(in my neighbourhood and in my music/art classes 2-3 years back).I am a studious boy,a lover of aesthetics,who is undergoing coaching for engineering exams.After passing my boards with a whopping 93% i set out to accomplish the aforementiond task.At the coaching i joined ,however there was a girl in my batch for whom i felt a deep inclination and an unknown attraction.I started talking to her and felt my subconcious attached with her.I smuggled her phone number and surprised her.Every activity of mine was an act of impulse rather than deliberation.I felt her to be the distroyer of my mental peace and i hastily left that coaching and joined another.Even then i was not able to evacuate my mind . Since the last few months she was constantly on my mind.Not a single day did pass when i did not remember her.She is not too beautiful and not at all intelligent.I do not know her history and i am unable to gauge her attitude towards me.she has studied in a co-ed and i have seen her talking to many boys.There is a subtle look of derisive mockery,appreciation vanity and i dont know what in her eyes when we talk.She used to inflame me by peeping over her shoulders when i used to be seated at her back.She begins to breathe heavily when we talk on the phone.Is she afraid of my advances?I do not look at her in any unchaste manner.
I am realy sad to say that iam not able to assuage my mind,free it from the tenacious grip of her thoughts.She is turning me a mental and moral bankrupt.on top of everything exams are coming near.WHAT IN THE NAME OF THE LORD AM I TO DO?PLEASE HELP
2007-03-20 20:34:56 · 18 answers · asked by maxovich 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a girl myself, psychology students., all i can say is that., your intellegent, use your mind over your heart., heart follows little by little when you wanted it to learn., that y girl your talking about is just a part of your training., be what you really are., and trust me., when your doing good and doing ryt., she herself will come and admire you. so good luck. focuse pare....behind the fall of every man, is a woman...
2007-03-20 20:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by azilem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend you are obviously in love.I truly pity you for your organised and logical world is about to, or by the sound of it already has been torn out from under your sensible shoed feet! The only course of logical action for you would be to, dare I say it, explore this love that is eating at the tattered remains of your existance, for if you attempt to ignore this feeling it will entirely consume you and you will eventually end up a shell of a man. Good luck with your impending adventure and may you come back a sane man...
2007-03-20 20:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound obsessed over her.. and , i am concerned in the context of your question. No one can make us feel a certain way. we react, and feel the way we do.. own it..
her actions you suppose she is doing, may not be in truth what she is doing.
even if so, you have the choice to withdraw and become involved in other healthier activities.
I feel you are inexperienced in relationships.. nothing wrong with that, we all started somewhere inter acting with humanity..
i would suggest you do seek seeing a therapist, i think you are smart in knowing in posing the question itself here on the website regarding..
there is nothing wrong in asking for help for yourself.. if you won't who will? .It takes a strong person to know when to ask for help, when needed and go for it. you are the best judge of your needs.
there too perhaps you can find ways to approach others in a healthier light.. good luck to you.. I feel you have writing skills i would pursue.. by the way... and, are a deep thinker.. I'd suggest though loosen up some.. get out in the woods and into nature.. good life to you..
2007-03-20 20:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh? ur englis is kinda perfect so i am not perfect englis so got confuse... boy what is ur problem.. u like the girl... talk to her and go from ther if she dont like u with i would not like for the way u describe her "no too beutifull and no at all intelligent" that is wrong dude that is wrong i dont care how educate u r or how high u fly... but to describe a person u care for that way is not posible if u love her it does not matter how ugly and stupid she is u will she in her the beuty and how smart she is u have a way with books and proyects but no a way with women a success in ur carrer u have but u need to star learning form every day life about every day people and what women really like good luck to u in ur carrer...
2007-03-20 20:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by chance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip. That is total obsession. That is not love. If you can't pull it together, get some help. This is how people become stalkers.
2007-03-20 20:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well, that was one LONG letter.
I know what you haev to do
TELL HER THAT YOU LIKE HER!!!!! If you ever want peace in your mind again, you will do it. It is clear that this is driving you crazy, if it doesn't work you can just carry on with your life.
2007-03-20 20:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know her better and find something that u cant stand about her... in my opinoun if u get to knwo her u might not like her any more.... By d way next time can u use small words... thnx
2007-03-20 20:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow yeah ok dude come back down to earth so we can all talk on the earth level ok later
2007-03-20 20:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by yo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess you caught the love bug .... talk to her the normal way i meant don't make it too much of an intellectual conversation . hang out have fun and date .....
2007-03-20 20:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by asphyxia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋