I have been in a relationshio for two years now. We are of the same religion, however, he is in a position where he knows more about our faith, whereas, i am still learning, yet struggleing. I teach sunday school, i'm in a religious group, yet my boyfriend says it's not enough. He advised me on how to read the bible by breaking down the chapters. I have read 8 books in the bible. I got stuck on the gospel of John. I admit i got confused and lost and aggrivated and stopped reading for the past 4 months. I'm really confused as to how a person who claims to have so much knowledge and faith can act in such a manner.
2007-03-20 20:29:52 · 12 answers · asked by Aztec_Angel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sheer arrogance. No one has the right to do that.
No offense, but I don't think this relationship is going to work out. It sounds like your boyfriend either thinks faith is some kind of contest (which it isn't, faith is personal) or is just trying to keep you down.
2007-03-20 20:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow it sounds like maybe his standards are a little too high. You sound very active in your church and bible reading. I don't think it's anyone's place to say whether you are or aren't religious enough. It's only God's place. If you feel your relationship with God is strong then don't let yourself be shaken by what someone else says.
Is your boyfriend trying to become a minister or deacon? If the relationship is serious I can understand him wanting to make sure you both believe the same. After all, the Bible does talk about not being unequally yoked. Unless he's aspiring to a higher position in the church and wants you there by his side, I can't see why he'd think what you're doing right now wasn't enough already.
Maybe sit down and talk to him about your feelings. Find out why he's asking this of you. Remind him of the sadducees and pharisees in the Bible that thought they had a closer relationship with God than anyone one else.
2007-03-20 20:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has that right. It is a personal thing, and is not to be questioned within a relationship. Visitors to this forum will find almost any belief questioned, and that is appropriate: that is what it is for, to get people to think and understand and justify, if possible, their beliefs. Sometimes, one concludes that it is not justified, and changes.
2007-03-20 20:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the type of people who turned me away from my faith..... im lost now trying ot find my way back!
its not that your not doing enough... ALL people are at a different lvl with God...
he shouldnt be the one saying those things, he has no right!
tell him that everyone is at a different lvl in there faith with God and as long as your always working to better yourself and grow in your faith, there SHOULDNT be a problem.
2007-03-20 20:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by flipinout_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can read what you like however you like. If he doesn't like it you are better off finding someone else who isn't so controlling. You'll be a lot happier for it. Belief is personal.
2007-03-20 20:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS PERSON SHOULD REALLY READ AND UNDERSTAND WHAT THE WORDS MEAN. ALSO YOU SHOULD FIND ANOTHER PERSON TO BE WITH.THIS IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE.YOU DESERVE BETTER.DONT BE A MARTYR.MOVE ON FROM THIS PERSON.IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU WILL ALWAYS BE PUT IN SECOND PLACE FROM THIS PERSON.GOOD LUCK BEST WISHES FREDDY,..........
2007-03-20 20:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by freddelorme35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen,,we are all suppose to work out our own salvation...We also are not suppose to judge,sounds to me,,He needs a lesson in not judging others...He truly does not know your heart only God does....
2007-03-20 20:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything religious is more than enough, it's too much.
2007-03-20 20:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like saying he's better than you because he's known it longer. Just because he's known it longer doesn't mean he knows it better.
2007-03-20 20:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the whole religion issue is not an issue ..
The guy is a total ****........................
Kick him to the kerb and get the respect u deserve!!!!
2007-03-21 00:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋