i've been seeing a guy for almost 2 months now...we see each other once a week, he told me he likes me and all that...then last week he told me he's not really into the dating scene...so i take that he means i'm not really someone that he would date and he'd rather date someone else...but he still wanna hang out with me. i still get emails from him and text messages...i dont know what the hell he's looking for or even know what he wants...i'm just sick of men playing games with me and i'm not stupid not to know it, i can read between the lines they tell me. so right now im just ignoring this guy, i delete his emails because i just dont see the point of seeing him anymore, even tho he still tells me that he likes me and all that crap...i feel like im just one of his options. i've been heartbroken many times and i'm not gonna let it happen again...and go through all that pain
2007-03-20 20:26:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like one of two things. Either he wants to keep things causal and doesn't want to rush into anything, OR he doesn't want to be exclusive. From what it sounds like though I don't think that's the REAL problem. You sound rather insecure in not giving someone a chance because of your own past. If you don't take a risk you will not get what you want. And playing hot and cold will only drive someone away in the end. Maybe not with THIS guy, but you should take a chance to be happy, rather than worry about what you stand to lose... BEFORE you even get it.
2007-03-20 20:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Waddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Open to the world around you, second best
with or without you.
Breath deep now, the pain is behind you, theres
someone out there that still wants to find you
Heartbroke and shattered this is what is, and time will heal wounds so you may begin again..
Out there somewhere theres some man too, hes been through such heartbreaks as many as you.
He wont give up and neither should you, someday you will find each other and begin anew.
could'nt get the third line to work any suggestions??
Don't give up, and shut down. Its a cold place here.
2007-03-21 03:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got it right! He doesn't want to be with you, but why limit his options for the moment??
I don't want to sound harsh, but maybe you need to try a different approach to relationships like finding out a guy's intentions before you go on dates... (just an idea). And trust your gut since the first day is telling you something. Also say what's on your mind... if you think he's playing tell him... If you let them know you are not stupid, they won't treat you like you are... You have nothing to loose.
2007-03-21 03:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, tell me if I'm wrong but if he isnt ready for a one on one now, how is pretending he doesn't exist help you when he does want a relation ship with a fine girl like you and he thinks you've been snobbing him?I would reccomend you stay in touch but dont do any booty call type things until he matures or gets sick of insecurity and when he is ready, you will have been there for him all along.
2007-03-21 03:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by macca_79_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does kind of sound like he may be keeping his options open. But not all guys do that. When he says he likes you he may mean it as a friend. It also may not be you, he may really not be "into" the dating scene. How old is he? has had past relationships? he may be just scared. If you like him as a friend talk to him about it. But if your gut says you are an option and nothing more RUN AWAY!!
2007-03-21 03:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by S W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he may be coming from the same place you are. The best idea is to tell him exactly what you have told us and take it from there.
Honesty and open communication is the most important key to keeping and making this relationship healthy for the both of you.
2007-03-21 03:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sheryl, I don't think he wants to be drop by you. He maybe a little shy and slow about asking you out. Why would he still tell you that he likes you?? I would wait for awhile and see what happens,if you are interested in him.
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-03-21 03:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this must hurt alot, i dont know how old you are, but ive never had to experince heartbreak as ive never been in a relationship. LOL. Sorry i no this isnt the time for jokes.
this guy obviously didnt realise whata good thing he had, move on and find a guy who appreciated you. (after you've yhad some single fun with your friends)
2007-03-21 03:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good move, you said it: you are just one of his options in case something he's working on elswhere does not work.
your like insurance, if it dont go through with some other chick he's talking to he knows he has you just a call away.
Ignore this dude, he's shady.
2007-03-21 03:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel better now that you've let it out??? Sorry for all your heartbreaks....One day the perfect guy for you will come along.
2007-03-21 03:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋