Asking out girl in my class?

Question

There is a girl in my class. We only speak in class, but not outside it yet. The class has been for 4 weeks only so far, and it ends in June.

I want to get to know her. She is very nice, but very conservative and shy.

We are both in our mid-twenties.

How can I get to know her. She is conservative and Catholic, but she is nice.

Anyways I can ask her out to go somewhere without making it seem like I'm interested?

She always tends to leave class fast after it ends. So should I ask her out during class?

Is it too early to ask her? We've only have 5 classes in the past 4 weeks

Answer 1

The answer is no, you can't ask someone out without seeming interested. There is no possible way. Let me pull out something from the old Dr. Relationship vault that should be of use for somebody in your situation...
Ah! Here we go.
You: Hey, would you like to have dinner with my friend some night?
Her: Who's your friend.
You: Me.

Answer 2

Before you do this, approach her with a class question. Then apologize for not formally introducing yourself. Then list some specifics about yourself. Like; Hey Jill. What did you think about that last question? (Respond to whatever she says) Like; That's a good point of view. Then introduce yourself if you haven't already. (explain in a min. why.) Say something like; I can't believe we are almost finished with this class. (places a sense of urgency to get to know each other if she's interested) I know we haven't really had an opportunity to get to know each other. My name is (Blank). I really enjoy this class but after this I usually go to (blank). I usually just hang out with friends when I can but this class is taking alot of my time. Then ask her what she thinks about the class and what she usually does to get away from the time consuming homework.
This lets her know your single and keeps your response short. And it gives you a segway for her to open up a little about herself. The reason you want to do this is because she may already be involved in a relatioship. If she is, she will most likely share that with you at this point. Saving you from finding out the hard way. If she isn't, that would be a good opportunity to ask her if she would be interested in getting together some time. Think of cafe's when you do this. You can go for coffee and something sweet so you can keep it short, you may find out your not really compatible. If you are you can always end up ordering lunch or dinner. Just don't mention getting desert. Sends the wrong message. Just be creative. Good luck!

Answer 3

She probably is thinking the same thing but is too shy to show that she wants you to make a move. Dont let the opportunity go by. Suggest you get together to do something that relates to the course your taking so its not completely like a date. Ask her if she has an email address that you can contact her on, maybe to share notes or something?

Answer 4

I don't get it...why do you want to go out with her but not have her know you are interested in her? If you are trying to incrementalize this, thats crazy. You said she is nice so how much criteria do you need? You want to take her out ...not marry her. See...no...ask the woman out...now your dating......and dating is about getting to know someone on a number of levels. You will know quite quickly if it can work especially if you are both in your mid twenties. You aren't teeny boppers anymore so go for it and you will both deal with this as mature adults. But don't try and micro manage yourself into trying to have all these pre-requisites met before you ask a woman out. If she is nice then ask her and then have fun getting to know her...Are you dialing the phone yet?....Good Luck!

Answer 5

Start off with maybe a coffee or something. Something small and easy. If it seems like you both enjoyed, continue slowley, remember that shy girls like it slow and subtle. Work your way up and she'll know that you are the kind of nice guy who isn't a jerk.

Answer 6

Why not something quite casual. "Would like to have a cup of coffee with me?" Not much ventured and not much lost. She can either say no or yes. Either way you can win, win by looking elsewhere. Make the conversation light, you know "What is your major? Or what is your educational goal? She will set the tone, if standoffish then she was just being polite. But maybe......

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Go up to her, just start talking to her and say hey, would you want to go out for some pizza/chinese/italian etc after class?





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Answer 9

aw...how sweet...do something like..."hey, i'm going 2 the library 2 study wanna come with me?" something like that. and talk 2 her more. be nice, caring, but do NOT stare at her. she'll feel uncomfortable. i hope it works...

Answer 10

study date! or let your balls drop and go for the gusto