Should I move in with him??

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months we see eachother every day. I've spent time with him countless times all day. I'm pretty much in love with him (no it's not lust ive been in lust before and it's a completely different feeling) I'm 18 and he's a few months away from turning 18. I know him very very well from being with him all the time. We have had our ups and downs which have never been really bad downs. We want to move in together at the end of the month. I know he is really clean so i know that being lazy or not cleaning will not be a problem. I know things that I do that annoy him and he knows things that annoy me. I think overall we know eachother very well. SOME of my family thinks it's a bad idea saying we don't know eachother good enough and whatnot but i look at it this way, it's better to do it now then wait and find out it doesn't work and get hurt even more. what do you think?

we are getting an apartment...it's in my name and there isn't a lease or anything I have a full time job (that pays enough for me to take care of the apartment on my own if anything happens) that I have trust in (meaning it's stable) and he is soon to be working full time but would still be able to afford it even if he doesn't work full time

Answer 1

First just realize that ur parents are only looking out for your best interest. I say go for it only if:

He is finacially stabe
You are financially stable
You have an emergency fund in the event that something bad happens...

18 is young but you're not children anymore. The only way for ppl to learn is to live. I hope the two of u grow together through this experience and not apart. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

Think about it carefully...
Make sure you have a back up plan for when/if things go wrong.
Don't forget all the other expenses associated with moving in such as buying furniture, food, whitegoods etc.
From the beginning make sure you both know what your responsibilities are ie. are you splitting the bills or alternating them - whose responsibility is it to pay the rent each week.
Sorting out the key roles in the relationship is an important step.
I moved in with my 18 year old boyfriend of 8 months(I am 21). We have been living together for 7 months now and we have encountered many hurdles so far particularly to do with finances and household roles but what made it successful is that in all the aforementioned hurdles i knew him well enough to know what his responses would be.

Before i moved out i made a list of all the reasons for and against moving out, and all the queries/worries that i had and i discussed this with my partner.

You can make it work. I still enjoy living out of home with my partner and we are now looking at buying a house.

I say go for it - but think about it long and hard.

Answer 3

18 years old is still kind of young to be considering moving in with a significant other, but you have considered the pros and cons more then most 18 year olds would. ? i don't know were you two would be moving? If you are moving into a family members house it is completely different from moving out on your own and being financially reliant on one another. Also men mature at a slower level then women so ask yourself if you two shared a place would he be capable of pulling a scandelous move like throwing you out? Always consider yourself before considering your other even when your in a comitted relationship.

Answer 4

I dont believe its a good idea... 5 months isnt a long time! im 21, going out with a 19 year old, been going out for 5 years and will finally be moving in with each other at the end of the summer.

Trust me, if you want your relationship to last for a long time, dont move in yet..... even though you sday you know each other very well, everything weill change when you move in.... i say wait it out for 6 more month at least, figure out both your future and then choose to mov ein or not.

Man if i let my gf move in with me a year or 2 ago, it would have probably gone bad lol.... but, i dont know you and i dont know him, so do what ya want but at least take my advice seriously

Answer 5

You have to familiarise yourself with the laws in your country regarding cohabiting. In some countries, 6 months of living together would be treated the same way as divorce when you separate. So you need to get all the information and go in with both eyes open.

Answer 6

No, you have not been with him for at least two years. No, because why would he marry you? No, because that will entitle you to fifty percent of his income under biased communal property laws that discriminate against men and make it easy for women to use men for money. No, because unless you never plan on having kids and marrying, are gay, or have been married and do not plan on doing it again and the kids are grown, it will not work. Living together is an exceptional situation for certain people.

Answer 7

I'd say no... you two are both going to be adults... but... still. 5 months into a relationship is barely enough to know what up and downs of that relationship are. I'd say wait it out, don't rush into anything.

Answer 8

i did tht and thought it was a good i dea to make my realationship stronger but trust me girl after u move in together things get bad u fight alot n everything about ur realationship changes if u havent lived wit a bf before i would def wait let him settle into his own place n all tht **** first trust me girl been there done tht

Answer 9

I say go ahead and move in....seems that you two guys are
mature enough and can work out your differences.

Answer 10

Go ahead move in. But couples that move in together usually don't last very long.