What do I do when my mum seems to make all my decisions.?

Question

I feel so clouded that I can't think for myself anymore and don't understand my own beliefs. no confidence.

Answer 1

you need to say to her mum, i lovew you but your really crowding me, i need to be able to grow up and make my own decisions wether they are wrong or right, you will probably find she made a mistake when she was young and doesnt want the same thing happening to you explain how you feel, it may take time but she will understand you are your own persona dn if you betray what she says occassionaly do not feel guilty she just loves you very much. be strong

Answer 2

Hello. First don't ever fall into a place were you have no confidence. Also I think that you should talk with your mom. Parents have some helpful advice on some of these subjects. Like they want you to become a strong independent person. This might not all be you though. Sometimes peoples parents have some relapses as the child grows up. My advice is just try to resolve it in your head first. Try to get a grip on your beliefs and opinions and desires. Then you can talk with your mom or just start interjecting when she is making a decision for you.

Answer 3

Bravo, for you are one who wants to be free;
I salute you, you who want to be you. You may not yet know it, but by wanting to understand what you believe, and to learn to think for you self is to want to be free. Freedom is the highest moral.
Why do you feel clouded? If it is because your mother speaks for you, you must think for yourself before your forgotten. Look at the world around you. Do you love it? Why not? What are your beliefs, examine them if you dont understand then. Remember, your mother can share what she THINKS, but can not tell you what you think. You will always have that freedom. It is the one thing they cant easily take form you. Understand that at your point in life, you cant go out into the world by yourself. You have no money. Society wont accept you yet, your to young. Learn to stand for what you believe, not what your told to believe. Make yourself knowledgeable and strong for when you can and will stand for yourself. To have confidence know you are strong enough. Its as simple as that. It may be a little lie to your self, but as long as you say it, youll begin to believe it. And you will succeed, there is no failure. As long as you love yourself you win. Thats the secret they dont tell you. As long as you are happy with who you are today, then even if you die tomorrow morning in a car crash, you won in life. Thats what matters. Its true that you are born, then die. But in-between there are a whole lot of different experiences, those are holy. Always love each one, there are only so many. Remember, nothing is real but how you perceive the world, see no anger, hear no anger...
Jebus Holy

Answer 4

just ask her what to do next