It was a nasty arguement, with cursing and everything. the one where she says "from now on your just an office associate to me". I really really really like her. I want to have a relationship with her, but I don't know now. I want to make amends to her but I dont know what to do. Will I be able to have a relationship with her one day or is that chance gone and I can only be friends with her, or even that? What should I do?
2007-03-20 18:53:43 · 17 answers · asked by stolenheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first you should try and settle the fudge you have with her. she's mad at you right now. if it's you're fault. be a man and tell her it's all you fault. you don't know what came over you. anything that comes to you're mind. after that let it cool down a bit and be friendly again. ask her if she wants to go out or send her a teddy bear. anything that says i'm here for you.
2007-03-20 18:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by twan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard for anyone to answer a question like this without knowing what the arguement was about and if you could possibly make amends for the offense. Be subtle, show that you harbor no ill feelings even though you had a negative transaction. As for an intimate relationship, it sounds like you are going to have to play nice for a while before you can even think that.
2007-03-21 01:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think in the first place having personal relationship at office is really bad but since you haev already gone into that its better you first know her well not as a collegue but as a person out of office and try to b a gud friend first and say sorry for the argument you had.Just let time solve the matter...
2007-03-21 01:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by varina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you can not say your sorry for the argument at work, she might just be angry and I would not push her about a friendship now see how things go maybe in time things will cool over and you will get back to what you had but there is always the chance you will never get back what you had. Getting involved with people you work with is always risky
2007-03-21 02:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure early tomorrow morning before her or anyone she knows gets there, there is a bunch of flowers sitting on her desk. In the bunch of flowers should be a card saying simply "I'm very sorry - your friendship is too valuable to lose"
Then give it time and never tell her you left them there.
If she works out for sure that it was you and asks you about it, tell her it was when you guys fought that you realized how important she is to you.
2007-03-21 01:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just a crush. I've had workplace crushes myself, and the thought of ever disagreeing with any one of them was excruciating.
It did happen a few times, but the next day was as though nothing happened.
Still, these were just crushes, mind you. They were all married women, but I can relate to your question. Still, for her part, maybe she isn't so concerned with your feelings, and maybe that is an indicator of something less positive.
2007-03-21 01:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what brought on the argument in the first place. If you made a pass at her, and she reacted violently, then let it go dude... otherwise you're lookin at sexual harrassment charges.
If that's not the case, then the door might not be closed all the way. Be patient and see how things go.
2007-03-21 01:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your chances with her are not over. Play your cards right and you should be back in. Apologize and try to make things right. If you really like her you won't give up without a fight.
2007-03-21 02:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Niddy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are already very unprofessional in the workplace. perhaps, you could try a different approach and develop some workplace ethics. read you company's policy about dating if you are still employed.
2007-03-21 01:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it a work related argument? then... when we r upset we say things that we dont mean talk to her about it when she is calm and u r calm to and maybe this is a good opportunity to star a relationship
2007-03-21 02:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by chance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋