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Question

I am a male..of 14 years of age..who has many times contemplated suicide.Im saying this because everyday I go to school I get picked on and made fun of.Seriously.I get made fun of so bad Im ashamed and embarrassed to say on here even though I know no one will ever know who I am.It hurts so bad..I cant even talk to my family about it because they will say something like get over it,or dont worry about what they have to say.its not like i can just stop.I get picked on everyday it is so hard not caring what people say about you.I know surgery will fix it, but that's not what matters,because i cant afford it.man oh my god its hurts me so bad when they make fun of me.I cannot believe people are so cruel.theyre monsters in my eyes.Im always in tears and the things people say to me are always in my head..im literally in tears right now.and why is it in beauty?? because yes,it has something to do on how i look like.it hurts me so bad i cannot explain the pain and sorrow.I dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Please call 1-800- 237-TALK & get help. Ask for advice re: talking to your parents & getting them to understand how much you are hurting.

Please get help & allow life to get better. I speak from experience and trust me, it will get better.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Answer 2

I had the same problem in school. I would get picked on because I was too SKINNY. I really didn't let them know that it was getting to me. I just dealt with it. Because now I am 26 years old and have a body greater than Beyonce. Looks, wisdom and knowledge come with time. Just tell them I won't look like this forever. There are a few things you can do to make yourself happier. Give yourself a new makeover. You know some new clothes, a new haircut maybe a new color. Be creative and I'm sure you'll be a much happier person. Good luck to you and if you need a friend to talk to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

Don't be sad, sweetie. I'm sure you don't look bad at all. I'm not gonna patronize you about your pain. I can relate, actually. I felt the same way you did in secret, just like you. And I can tell you for sure that it is not going to be this way forever (the kids or the way you think you look). I had a hard time believing that I was attractive at all growing up. I even contemplated suicide as well. I can tell you from experience that nothing worthwhile will come from that kind of thinking. You may have to distract yourself with a hobby or something else to take your mind off of this stuff. Or you can try a school counselor or someone you can trust. I believe you are strong and you WILL get through this. I pray you will. God's strength is made perfect in our weaknesses. If you want to talk to someone, you can pray about it...or you can email me anytime you want to...You never know, something good may actually come out of this.

Answer 4

First off, suicide is NOT the answer.
Do you really want to throw away everything that you could have in the future just because of something thats going on now?
You need to be strong, and I'm sure its hard especially since you're so young, but you CAN do anything you set your mind to, whether it be ignoring these bullies or flying to the moon.

The only way you can stop people from making fun of you is by changing how you feel about your appearance. (This is easier said than done, but it can be done!)
The sad truth is that kids find things that you are insecure about and use those to make you feel bad.
Usually they pick something that makes you different.
But just stand up to them and say that you're comfortable with yourself and eventually they're gonna feel like idiots and give up.

Besides
You should not even stress about what those people think of you because they obviously have their own self-esteem issues and feel the need to pick on you just so they can make themselves feel all high and mighty.

The most important thing for you to remember is to just be happy with who you are as a person. If being you makes you happy, then to heck with all of the losers who just can't see how great you are. I hope it all works out for you!

Answer 5

Your problem really got to me...Not only have I been in your situation, but I have kids and worry about this sort of thing happening with them. First, as a mom, I want to tell you to give your parents a chance to help. At least try to talk to them about it, you may be very surprised- if you let them know how much this is affecting you and not just a passing thing they'll be there for you, i bet. I went thru this in 8th and 9th grade. Trust me, nobody needs surgery to be treated with respect, so please get that out of your head for now. Try this instead- the school year is almost over, hold your head up high and blow these losers off when they start on you...with some real attitude...treat them as if they were useless scum (that's what they're acting like). Over the summer work on you...your attitude(you are better than them), pump yourself up...try a different look, sometimes this makes us feel better about ourselves..go back to school in the Fall knowing what a great person you are, and don't let anyone convince you differently. But again, please talk to your parents. Write me if you need [e-mail]. Good luck...

Answer 6

First, I want to say that those jerks who are doing this to you will be big losers later in life(trust me!).
Second, suicide is not the answer and if you end up killin' yourself those very same people won't give a damn. They will probably feel guilty for a bit than move on to the next kid anyways.
What you need to do is focus on being the best you can be in school and finish school. Showing everybody that even if they wasted their time trying to break you they didn't succeed!
I went through alot of bull**** in school because I didn't act, look, or behave like all of them and I can tell you that the best form of revenge is success.
If you every need to talk just send me an e-mail at [e-mail] and try to talk to your parents about this because you need to surround yourself with alot of positive people.
Good Luck=)

Answer 7

Suicide is not the answer. Can you at least report to someone in your school. You are better then those people. People who calls names or pick on someone comes from a very broken families or abuse families. So the easy way to get out of it to pick someone from school, its not that you look bad, its that you are easy to be picked on and that makes them feels great as long as their are in school. Their feel that their have the control for a while. I have no Torrence policy in bullying so Talk to your school teacher and if that doesn't help then e-mail me just your school name and what grade you are in. No kids should be anyones bully at anytime. Also take some self defence class if possible. Dont hurt anyone because you will be no difference from them so you need to report them. You need to stand for yourself and for the people who cant stand for themselfd. You have the right to go to school and be fear free.YOU need to be proud of how you look. Looks shouldnt come between your studies.

Answer 8

First of all, I would like to say to you that suicide is not the solution to your problems with other kids bullying you. Now, I can always tell you to go ahead and go to the school counselor or the principal to take care of your bullying problem, but that would expose you to other bullies that will treat you even worse. Some people might think that it is easy being a teenagers these days, but it actually is not. I also know how you feel, because once I was in your position and thought of committing suicide. The other thing is you are correct, though surgery would help, not everyone can afford it, also I don't think that taking a shortcut by getting a surgery is good for you.
What I would do if I were you, I would confront the person that bullied you by doing the same thing that he or she does to you, which is bullied him back infront of his friends or teachers. How? I'm not saying go take a fight, but confront him or her with his or her own words. Find out what he likes or what his weaknesses are, the more you find out about him the better you can get back at him.
If he start calling you a f a g, well tell him "hey you weren't complaining last night when I had you!" or if he calls you a p u s s y then go back at him, "But yet you are the one who moans like one!" Get him where it hurts him the most, which is his pride, because bullies thrive with their pride for bullying on you.
Another thing, said this infront of his peer,"I'm not the one who is looking for an attention from kids like me!" That way his friends can think that he has some kinda disorder or something.
Let me tell you what, many people will always bullying at you in your whole life, so you need to stand up for yourself. The guys that bullied me in highschool think that they were cool back then, but now they are afraid of me when they see me. You know why? Because I'm an officer of the law and I don't take s h i t from any body. Some of them even ended up in jail and guess who's laughing now? ME, because I'm on the otherside of the bar. Nothing can scared me, I've been to Afghanistan and I've been to other places when I was in the NAVY, no one can say s h i t to me now, because I'll them them back, "I've been to places where people wants to kill me just because I'm an American, do you think I care what you said about me? Try to laugh at me now, because I'm the one who will be laughing at you!"
If you stand up for yourself just like I did, not only that other people will acknowledge you, you will also boost your own self esteem and people will leave you alone. So, I'm telling you that suicide is not the answer. If you think that your family is going to treat you like you said, then they don't deserve you as their child and you should tell them that they are ignorant fools.
So go out there and be heard.
If you need to talk to me, email me or IM me.

Answer 9

I jus cried, still doin it when i saw your message. I'm a mom of a 14 yr old boy, he started grant co. h.s. this yr and is a freshman, he has alot of friends but also some of the insecure kids pick on him. He never speaks of it but I was in his shoes once an got picked on, the past couple months his grades have dropped really low.That tells me something aint rite, it just so happens that we are homeless plus other things goin on but i'm concerned for you if your parents don't listen.Ppl can be mean, it's thier problem, not yours , when you see how they are jus know that you never wanna be such a lowly person. You can call or e-mail me if you want. mthr_gs@yahoo. e-mail me an then we can talk more, don't worry bout those "kids", life is yours, sieze it !

Answer 10

Listen the whole reason these kids say this crap is because believe it or not they are REALLy insecure!!! I'm going to give you a piece of advice someone gave me a while ago when i was in your position and it may not seem like much but trust me in time it meant so much he said" i don't know why everyone thinks so poorly of her or makes fun of her she has such a beautiful personality and one day she is going to be gorgeous and she's going to be the one laughing at them" at the time i thought he was nuts but after that it inspired me because someone believed that i could be the person everyone wanted and believe it or not now i look amazing and all these jerks that made fun of me in school want to hook-up with me or date me ...the most popular guy from highschool is my ex and i hooked up with the hottest guy in school but when i was there i didnt exist unless they were making fun of me ...trust me i really do know how u feel i got beat up for being fat i got spit on everything but trust me one day you will knock them off their f*ing feet because u will be something and you care about people and their emotions you WILL make it far in life and you to wil lgrow to be something larger then you imagine like i did!!! If you ever want to talk I'm here cause i really do understand and i will talk to you honestly and not just say what you want to here here's my sn if you want it pdigurl02@aim P.S. To the world you may mean nothing, but to one person you may mean the world" ...Next time they start Keep your head up... look them in the eye, and say one day you'll envy me, and as they laugh just smile back, walk off, and know that you're right!!!

Answer 11

Ive been in tears for the past 2 hours because of what i've read from you. I feel your pain. I have big ears, so in school they used to call me dumbo and make fun of me. till this day i still feel the pain and am scarred for life. it is hard to get over. you can't just forget about it if it happens everyday in your life. it scarred me so bad im socially isolated. i'm not trying to contribute to your pain, alls im saying is i know where your coming from and probably if not all of these people dont know the pain you go through. but trust me buddy. i do. email me.