My family just moved to a new town. My husband works 12+ hour days, and he's NEVER here. I'm with my son (he's 2) alone every day. We are lonely, bored, and getting stir crazy. How can I make this better for us? I'm starting to get mad at my husband for not being here, eventhough I know that he just paying the bills. It's not his fault, but I'm loosing my sanity. Any advice welcome!
2007-03-20 18:41:03 · 13 answers · asked by joupedamom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Join some groups that I'm sure they have for play time with kids and moms get to talk with eachother-- check the churches first then the billboards at the library--- also library and gyms have playtime for free- another thought of you getting out on your own.............good luck
2007-03-20 18:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mom with a 2 year old as well and it doesn't help that my husband is on call 24/7 with odd hours. Not to mention I don't know anybody in this city because we moved here a couple of years ago. My advice to you is that it takes a strong woman to live this kind of life. I know it may drive you crazy because I felt that way too. But I keep myself and my little one busy just to move forward, and I am thankful I can spend time with my little one. Its a big sacrifice if you think about it but other people have it worst, so I count my blessings. Try going to the park, library, shopping, or even on a dinner date with your little one. Trust me it will be okay sooner or later you will find what makes you happy.
2007-03-21 02:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do understand your situation and have survived it both my children are grown. Suggest you get active in life in the new town check to see if there is a Mom and Me group. Great way to meet other Mom's in your situation. Also, join groups that get you out of the house it is okay to get a sitter and go out and about to explore your new town. (My husband was military and I often had a short time to learn my way around town before he would leave and be gone from six months to a year. So I truly do understand that part.) I took tons of correspondence courses and indulged my love of writing and drawing. I got good enough at both to sell a few works of each. It was a time of self discovery for my children and me. I hope that you will look at this time as a time of opportunity you can build real happiness for yourself at this time which will make you far more interesting to come home to after your husband has worked hard all day. You will not have to pounce on him to find out what is going on in the world you will have things for you to show and tell. Good luck I wish you joy.
2007-03-21 02:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have stayed at home with my children off and since they were born. I stayed at home more then I haven't though. Last summer I was getting so depressed staying at home with my 2 and 4 year olds. I so love them dearly but it was really taking its toll. I was angry all the time. I began snapping at them all the time too. It was also causing problems with my hubby and me. He works 14-16 hours a day. I finaly got a part time job. I couldn't believe how wonderful it was to miss my kids. They were always with me so i never got the chance to b4. They also seemed to enjoy the break from me. I worked through the summer but was laid off in the fall. it was a seasonal job but worked out as I gave birth to a son in Nov. I've been getting frustrated again and it great my boss called me today to see if I wanted to work for him again this summer. I am seriously considering it. The other benefit to getting a job was the energy I got back. I went from haveing no energy to feeling better then I ever have. I also enjoyed the fact that it gave us extra spending money. I could take the kids to the movies, out for ice cream, or whatever I wanted cause I always had extra $. I tried to use the $ I did make to benefit the kids even started savings accounts for them. I highly suggest finding something to do thats doesnt include your sweet little boy. Like I said you can't believe how great it is to come home and say GOD I missed u.
2007-03-21 02:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by angel s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you put your son into a daycare centre a few days a week and if you don't want to get a job, go and do some voluntary work somewhere, which will give you the opportunity to meet some new people, and make some new friends.
2007-03-21 02:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home Mom and I love it. My husband works those hours as well. Get involved with Mom groups. You can usually get info about them from your library or health unit. If not they usually can guide you in the right direction. In these groups you meet Moms like yourself and create friendships. Plus your little person plays with potential buddies as well. Then you don't feel abandoned by your man.
2007-03-21 01:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will never get back this time with your son...this is the best time to really get to know and be part of shaping his character...enjoy your time by finding new things to learn..read and play if you can....find a group of friends to spend time with. You are doing the most important job on earth of being a present parent... what area do you live in?
2007-03-21 01:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by learn2b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your son out. If weather permitting go to the park, he has fun and you might meet new people. If weather is not permitting then go shopping,even window shopping. Play with your son. Watch a movie with your son. It does get boring though. Just stay busy!
2007-03-21 01:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing, I was getting depressed, I went back to work, put the little one in daycare, and I am so happy, so is my little one, I love going to my job and it makes me feel like I matter again.
2007-03-21 02:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) join local gym (YMCA is best)... lots of places have child care available at minimal additional cost.. this gives you some break time
2) find all local playgrounds... at playgrounds, kids are pretty good at entertaining themselves and it tires them out
3) search on the internet for moms clubs. in LA (where i live), there is a group called M.O.M.S. club... they have chapters all over the country so maybe something like that exists in your area.
2007-03-21 01:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by Karen H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋