My bf and I have been dating for just over a year and living together for about 11 months. When we first got together the sex was AWESOME.we would have sex 5-10 times a week sometimes more. It started kinda slowly easing off after the first 2-3 motnhs which was totally expected but it just kept easying off to the point where we were having sex once every 2-3 weeks.i bought it up with him several times to try and figure out what we could do to make it better but he wouldnt talk about it...about 4months on i cheated on him...i hated myself for it and figured our relationship was over but when i told him he said he wanted to give it another go...oddly our sex life vastly improved but only for about 2 weeks. now we have sex once a month generally on a sunday morning.
I asked what i could do and he said he wants me to initiate things more often but ive been rejected by him so many times now that it hurts too. I love him so much and i know he loves me but our sex life sucks. What can i do?
2007-03-20 18:38:57 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talking to him about it wont do anything guys love it wen gurls take control so i suggest you get sum sexyy panties and a sexy bra an seduce him or something push him on the bed..guys love that trust me...goodluck
2007-03-20 18:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the must part, all males are like this. It all starts great, bang bang all day bang, and then it dies down. Their are several reasons for this. 1. he always wanted someone to initiate the session. Why?, he is shy. And when the girl is naughty, that turns him on.. 2. He befriended you.. If a man loves you to the point that you become his best friend, then he will become reluctant to sex, because he is now your friend and one does not take advantage of friends.. It is a subconscious thing.. When you cheated on him and things grew OK again for a weak or so, it was because he was afraid to loose you. remember you are his greatest friend and he wants you with and by his side for ever. He wants nothing to happen to you, including himself Fkn you.. cus this is bad... Are you following me?
2 other reasons for this behavior in male is due to carelessness. If you are or were ever riding him(sexually) and hurt his penis, this man will avoid you for ever. He might not even have understood, what happened, but subconsciously he will avoid sexual contact with you. other than this the avoidance signifies that he is had enough of you but loves you and cares for you. Will stay with you for ever. This is also known as love. Sex is not all there is. Great companion ship, understanding, support and empowerment are much greater that ten minutes of penetration. Hope this helps. Will
2007-03-21 02:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Will M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married, that is what happens many times when people are together for a while. But most guys are horny all the time. You need to try new things, and that could be the biggest problem. Is someone in the relationship reserved, because that can lead to problems in exploration of sexuality between partners. Things get boring, and you need to spice them up. But speaking from a male perspective for the most part I am ready to bring it, and I have two children, and have been with my woman for five years. There might be other problems with him. Is he cheating on you?
2007-03-21 01:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Adam S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just that he is getting bored of the same plain sex with you again and again. Give him a few blow jobs and start masturbating early in the morning while in his presence.
People are more receptive to sex and romantic leasures early in the morning rather than late at evening.
2007-03-21 07:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by AnSID 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the 'no-strings attached' kind. so dont pressure him about anything before-hand (bills, work etc..) cuz that'll put him out of the mood. try a romantic setting, or plan a day for just the 2 of you. he'll be all over you haha, that or buy a french maid costume.
2007-03-21 01:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Savannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you cheat on him? Did it have to do with the lack of sex?
2007-03-21 01:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he don't like you any more or he had a feelings with other gurlzzz
2007-03-21 02:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by `PoP`PrinCeSs` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋