I received a letter today saying that a petition by my ex-boyfriend have been filed for order of protection and other relief, and that suit is now pending. It says unless I, the respondent file my response to said petition or otherwise make my appearance therin, in the office of the clerk of the circuit court, on or before April 13, 2007, default may be entered against me at any time after that day, and an order of Protection entered in accordance with the prayer said Petition. Can someone explain that to me? I just don't understand, I didn't do anything besides apologizing for next couple days after the break up for the things I said, and I just wnated him to respond me and at least have a nice break-up. He never did respond to that white flag of mine. And I gave up about a month ago.I broke up with him in 10th of february and after 27th of february I never called him. I just don't understand any of this and really want to keep my record clean. I just want to move on. Any Help pls?
2007-03-20 18:36:36 · 9 answers · asked by noachiss Chicago 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Well, this thing was started a while ago; beaurocracy in any state would take this petition a couple of weeks to get pushed through, so maybe he started this while you were still trying to "fly the whit flag." However, what he did took time and effort on his part and unless he is completely paranoid, you did something to deserve this. I think you need to look at what you did, look at yourself, and ask yourself is this why he broke up with me, and if you want to continue on a path where you will never have a healthy relationship because you're not honest with yourself.
Now, if you really did nothing and this guy is just a jerk, than I'm sorry. I just don't see it that way though and you need to learn from mistakes and grow. If you did make a mistake then move on and grow, no big deal, we all make them. Plenty of people have had restraining orders filed against them; people do crazy s**t when in love or when a loved one hurts them. Good luck.
As for keeping your record clean, go to a lawyer first thing in the morning and get some advice.
2007-03-20 18:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Phat Kidd 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In other words, he is asking the court to grant a restraining order against you. Which means you cannot have any contact with him (physically, phone calls, internet or mail) or be within a certian distance from him. It works both ways though. He cannot contact you either.....and so on. He is trying to say that he feels threatned, annoyed, harrassed or he fears for his life when you are around. If a restraining order is granted and you or him violate that order, you or him (whoever is in violation) will be arrested and taken to jail.
Above all else, you need to show up for that court date or you will face having a restraining order placed against you. This means that you will not be able to own a firearm or get a federal job.....among other things. You need to plead your case. A judge will hear you and make a decision after hearing both sides. If you fail to show for the hearing, he may automatically grant the order of protection. THIS WILL BE VERY BAD FOR YOU!!!
This may have been something you may not have want to have heard but it is the truth. Its better than sugar coating the whole ordeal.
2007-03-20 19:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have until april 13 to either file a reply to the request or appear in the clerk of courts office to answer questions about the request for a protection order.
It may be sufficient for you to explain that you were merely attempting to apologise and get a few things from the breakup sorted out so you could continue your life.
explain what you said , that the break up was the 10th and after the 27th you stopped trying to contact him .
In the circumstances there doesnt appear to be any reason for that order to be granted.
2007-03-20 18:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by mark 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a restraining order. basically it says that if the judge honors the complaint, you cannot willingly go within 100 feet of his person, home, or place of employment, though the distance varies from state to state and case to case.
just go into court, and explain yourself to the judge. take a copy of your cell phone records in with you to prove that you did not call past a certain date. chances are that may be asked for anyway. also, any sales receipts that prove you weren't where he says you were at a certain time will prove your innocence and discredit his case. also, any witnesses on your behalf would be beneficial.
if you are both minors, his parents may have filed it against his will. another thing to keep in mind- has your dad, brother(s), uncle(s), or friends threatened him bodily harm for breaking up with you, if that's how it went? if so, that would be a reason he or a guardian would file this order.
though on a personal note, i would have stopped calling him long before you did. i can see how he would view 17 days of calls a little obsessive and creepy. granted he could have asked you nicely to stop contacting him before that.
2007-03-20 18:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by bigwoodenhead 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep you sound like a stalker . no listen up a state would be nice as before mentioned would help , but this is where you went wrong you kept calling you leave your message saying that youd like to talk to him and that the reasons is so you can explain ,if he didnt call you back take that as a sign that he doesnt want to talk to you , next you kept driving by his house trying to get him to come out and talk didnt you ? Hears another q in how many relationships have you had where the break up was nice ? I ve never had one . break ups arent nice you wanted closure because he didnt want to talk you werent going to get it so you kept bothering him . NOW for the good news just because theres a order of protection against you it doesnt go on your criminal record UNLESS YOU BREAK IT !!!! Pay attention to what I just said Do not contact him through friends ,call him drive by anywhere you know him to go like his house ,job, friends house favorite bar , this order prohibts you from being within a 1000 feet of him and contacting him IF you see him at a store walk the other way because he can call the police and youll go to jail for breaking the order of protection then youll have a criminal record .
2007-03-20 19:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by maxiumdamage 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it so much, you sound young and a good judge will not hit you for an honest mistake. take some time and learn basic laws, you will need this knowledge in your life.
2007-03-20 18:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by neoconammo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain your case to the judge, he will throw it out if he has no evidence against you that you are harassing or threatening him.
2007-03-20 19:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know...You need to put the state on here...Each state is Diff!!!
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2007-03-20 20:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋