I am getting married 07-07-07. My hus-be does not speak to his side of the family. I dont want him to feel left out if I have a wedding. No one from his family will be there. I want it to be special for him as well. So I wonder should we just court-house it and call it a day?
2007-03-20 18:32:18 · 14 answers · asked by TC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
#1. Did you ask him how he would feel? If not...don't you think you should?..
#2. What about you ... have you always wanted one or did you always dream of the courthouse?
#3. One thing I learned (I've been married almost 8 yrs.) Your hubby-2-b and his relationship w/ his family is not up to you to fix, re-condition, or worry about. You and him...and your relationship with people are what you should focus on.
#4. Make it your day...run away together-get married in an open area; invite EVERYBODY - it's up to them if they come.
#5. Send announcements- to people- to the newspaper-everyehere then enjoy it..you focus on him...he focuses on you...IF others come to be with you- great!...if not..they miss it, not you guys! You are about to start a journey with a lifelong partner....make it memorable with love (not resentment, regrets,or tears of sadness!)
2007-03-20 18:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't speak to them now... why would he want them at his wedding? Doesn't mean you should pass on what is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime event!
But I would be concerned about marrying someone who doesn't speak to ANY of his relatives. Is there something wrong with them.. or with him? Has he told you why the relationship has been severed? The only time I've ever seen a similar situation was when the groom didn't have anyone at his wedding... because he didn't want the bride to find out about his 3 ex-wives! Needless to say.. the marriage didn't last.
But if you're comfortable about his explanation.. go ahead.. have the wedding.. and it will be special to him because he will have a NEW family.. YOURS :)
2007-03-20 19:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by endorable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but from what I have heard, most places are booked up for that day. Im getting married 07/21/07 and from the places I talked to, 07/07/07 had/has been booked up for years.
So you might have to go to do a courthouse thing :(
2007-03-20 22:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm getting married 6-24-07. We live in Washington State and my fiance' has not a single member of family outside of Florida. We will be getting married in a small ceremony involving mostly my family. Though it hurts her to have no kin at her wedding, she loves my family.
If your fiance' has any appreciation or feelings for your family, then by all means, have a ceremony. Enjoy the drama, you're not planning on getting married twice, right?
2007-03-20 20:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by solace001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you and your partner should have a chat about your wedding and come to a compromise. It may be a huge traditional wedding or it may be a small garden/beach wedding with your close friends. I agree that family should not get in the way of your happy day. Yes, alot of people say that the wedding itself isn't everything, but it is. It is the memory that you will carry with you for the rest of your life. I let my mother-in-law get in the way of my wedding and i regret it. It was all her way! The wedding is about both you and your partner and should be special. Make the most of it!!!! :)
2007-03-20 21:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. I'm not sure if anyone on my side of the family will show up. I would do what you both want to do. If you really want to have a wedding then go for it! It is your and his day, no one elses! Good Luck:-)
2007-03-20 19:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bunny83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what HE is most-comfortable with..
If hes close with some of your relatives or family than I don't see why he wouldn't have a good time..
You don't have to invite every single relative of yours.. Just make it small.. Also invite some of your close friends and have him invite some of his...
a court-house wedding would work out just fine also..
Talk to him about it
2007-03-20 18:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by MeganElizabeth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you aren't having the wedding personally. The both of you are, I saw a lot of I's in there. Secondly, have the wedding you want (if he agrees) and invite your hubby's family. See if they come, you might be surprised.
2007-03-20 19:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion, but, what do you and hus-be want. If you want a traditional ceremony, you might keep it simple and private. I would not allow family issues to stop your special day.
2007-03-20 18:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about what you b/f wants to do, it's not just the brides day, perhaps he would like a wedding, it sounds like you have not even asked him how he feels about it??
2007-03-21 05:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋