To love someone passionately and unconditionally with minimal reciprocity. Or, to be loved passionately and unconditionally while not really being sure how you truly feel. I think lots of couples live with this emotional dichotomy. What would you choose?
2007-03-20 18:31:42 · 8 answers · asked by Cliff F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a tough question.
It would seem like to be passionate about someone who is not as passionate with you would not be a good thing ...but once we have a sure thing .....ANY sure thing ...is not as interesting and is taken for granted.
So that speaks also for to be the one loved unconditionaly, and they would not appreciate the love so freely given.
In a way that breaks it down to ...would you want to be the continual chaser ...or to be chased.....
chasing all the time with little reward doesent sound appealing......being chased all the time sounds awful.
I have put too much thought into your question. *smile*
Ive decided I wouldn't choose either one ....
BUT if I pretend im in a situation where I truly do not have the choice not to make a choice ...my choice is .....oh hell ...let me be passionately loved....things could be worse......
I think couples trade roles ...depending on what is happening inside and outside of their relationship....I don't feel it's a one way street most of the time ....or it shouldn't be ...IMHO
Peace
2007-03-20 19:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by KorvetteKaren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather BE loved, because the ball is still in your court and you're able to decide if you feel the same way. If you are hopelessly in love with no control, then you are just that, HOPELESS. I can honestly say that rarely do I get attached like that, I'm not clingy or needy. Nor do I like clingy or needy people, but out of the two, I would rather be the selector, the pursued, than I would be "that guy" that is totally helpless and unrealistic. Most of the people that end up like this are called STALKERS.
2007-03-20 18:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Waddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a dilemma! Hmm.. With my personality, i would choose the one who passionately and unconditionally loves me. With that kind of love for me its not impossible to fall madly deeply truly inlove with that guy. 0=)
2007-03-20 18:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by dhyniz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your limited relationship experience is showing. You have chosen extremes and nobody should be happy with either for a long period of time. You say you believe that most people are dealing with one or the other. You DO NOT know what goes on behind closed doors. What happens in public and what happens in private is so often different. Don't presume!
2007-03-20 18:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be loved passionately and unconditionally while not really being sure how you truly feel
2007-03-20 18:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by CB Run 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've gotten the two!!!! i might opt to be enjoyed. selfish i understand...... yet its how i might sense and that i wouldnt opt to be in discomfort or something. love is a huge element tho and could be shared between 2 human beings. neither one loves the different extra. its equivalent. its the way it extremely works.
2016-11-27 19:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by isador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be loved . It is just too pain full loving someone who doesn't love you back.
2007-03-20 22:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both suck, but I will choose the later.
2007-03-20 18:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋